Re: My girlfriend does drugs. Help.
it sounds like you're judgy. this is good and it's bad. it's good cuz you know what you want. it's bad because your view can be limiting.
personally when people have problems i make it a point to not address the problems. instead i persuade them to adapt to my personality by keeping the energy to my level.
example: if she likes watching tv all day everyday on the couch or computer i give in for a bit to find out her interests--and then i start to pull away from that habit. i make it a point that i'm active and that i'm seeking new things to keep my life interesting as what she might find on tv. life is interesting to watch especially someone else's... but sometimes it's better to live your own.
a better way of explaining this example is to use the push pull method with a mix of preselection (with other women or friends whom you both know). the more you are actively seeking other things to do outside of these bad habits you might not be interested in the more you know that she's willing to join you or she's willing to just sit there and be a home body. eventually you should be asking yourself if this is what you want or if you should start seeking new people to be with socially.
you can't change her--but you can show her what you're all about. never make it about how she's doing something wrong--you're only getting into more unneeded drama that you knew existed in the first place. the more you introduce and successfully use the push and pull tactics within social circles of actively pursuing things outside of her habits that are socially acceptable and generally fun the more you can not only gauge her as apart of your relationship but also where you want to take your relationship for the future.
regardless of her saying something like 'its not forever' it means that theres nothing more interesting to make her want to change. so--be the change and inspire it. don't force it. give her exciting options. be a salesman--don't be a pushy boyfriend.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.