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Thread: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

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    Default Re: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

    Showing and having these feelings isnt a bad thing. Its all about how you handle it. The more you freeze yourself over in the situations the more likely the girl will feel awkward and confused. I do this sometimes. Its a bit out of my control still but im not going to over think it if i can continue to talk to her. One thing we all need to learn is when to pull back and when to push. When she's not responding hold your frame and pull back in frequency. Reintiate at another comfortable time for you. Play the cards you wan to play and when you play them hold them out strongly. Don't apologize if she isn't for it. If you apologize for you're interests she's unable to gauge and trust the things you said because you just took back your words and actions. Learn to distract women with newer shiney things--such as different topics when it gets uncomfortable. Its partially deflecting but it's also trying to save a moment before it gets worse.

    A lot of inner game needs to be developed with an understanding of who you are; what you want and how you plan to go about getting it.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

    thanks guys.

    artandale, i sent you a pm, can you please check it?

    thanks again everyone.

    oh one more thing! any good reads on inner game? i want to know when i should pull back or push forward, im still learning and i dont think i see how to do that yet, i need some examples or a good read on it.
    suggestions?

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    Default Re: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

    She'll give you signs when to push and when to pull. If you can tell when someone is angry, sad or whatever you know when to approach or not to approach. Its not about the approach but how you approach. You should always be reading them emotionally through body language and verbiage. When shes laughing and smiling, shes having a good time and likely to respond well to escalation if you've kino-ed properly. If shes angry or sad nows not the best time to apply kino. If you can understand this you should be able to build some hypothetical situations on how to build and break rapport with a woman. That also said you should know how to hold your frame too to create tension. When tension is created don't break it until she's given you a sign to proceed or not. There are always emotional signals sent, movies tend to illustrate these situations best visually. But remember you have to take risks to get responses to work with.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

    Quote Originally Posted by johnnybob62 View Post
    She wants me to do do everything a boyfriend is/does but doesn't want a boyfriend.
    And what kind of stuff is that ?

    Quote Originally Posted by johnnybob62 View Post
    Is it true that she really could be so hurt she just needs more time to herself?
    Or she's kindly telling you,that you're not the guy,but still likes to keep playing you.

    Your mindset is wrong,stop seeing victims in them,even if she was hurt,she chose the guys that hurt her in the first place.Don't be "The one",be a man who is naturally attracted to a pretty lady.
    Life sucks,we get hurt all the time,whether it's our job/bills/relationship/studies/family or whatever,doesn't mean that you are never going to get a new job/pay for your bills/find a new girlfriend/try again/make up with your family.

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    Default Re: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

    Quote Originally Posted by artandale View Post
    She'll give you signs when to push and when to pull. If you can tell when someone is angry, sad or whatever you know when to approach or not to approach. Its not about the approach but how you approach. You should always be reading them emotionally through body language and verbiage. When shes laughing and smiling, shes having a good time and likely to respond well to escalation if you've kino-ed properly. If shes angry or sad nows not the best time to apply kino. If you can understand this you should be able to build some hypothetical situations on how to build and break rapport with a woman. That also said you should know how to hold your frame too to create tension. When tension is created don't break it until she's given you a sign to proceed or not. There are always emotional signals sent, movies tend to illustrate these situations best visually. But remember you have to take risks to get responses to work with.
    anymore info on this kind of stuff? example situations?

    also any good reads on inner game?

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    Default Re: Please Help! I need to get my mind strait.

    I dont do any reading on inner game because i spend so much time myself thinking about my self and the life i have and am currently living. I question everything and accept rven those un answered questions as answers. Inner game is more about who you are and asking yourself the right questions and not so much about how to appear aluring to your targets.

    As for examples... I dont really want to break anything down for this because life and entertainment do a pretty good job of conversations where people are offended or flattered and escalate physically and emotionally often. Its up to you to ask how and why people do what they do in these interactions. I find it more useful searching for answers instead of being given them. I dont mind tips but answers should be discovered in my opinion.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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