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    Default Need advice after a bad night

    Hey guys,

    So this is my first post on this site....

    Last night I invited a girl over to hang out at the fraternity house but things didn't go as well as planned. I'm not sure how I should react or what to do next, so I would really appreciate any advice that you guys have.

    I invited a cute girl over to play pong last night thinking it would be pretty laid back and easy because I have hooked up with her previously (about a week ago) though I hadn't seen her since then. Unfortunately, at my school, there really aren't that many "hot" girls, and so she started getting a lot of attention from other guys, including some of my brothers, and some guests of the house. After a while it became difficult to remain more interesting than everyone else and I ended up losing her to another brother who was smart enough to isolate her in a more private room. 10 minutes later, he was marching out with her and I knew that I messed up big time.

    Now I'm not sure what to do. How do I react to my friend picking up the girl he knew I had invited over? Do I text her or invite her over again? I'm more concerned about what to do about the girl than my friend tbh.

    Would really appreciate your thoughts on this guys, it was a terrible end to my weekend.

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    Nerfboy

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    Default Re: Need advice after a bad night

    I would say you need to work on being more alpha. I would NEVER take a girl with me anywhere besides a 1-on-1 date until I mastered this. When I walk into a room or go to a party with a girl, I don't get nervous if she talks to somebody else because I have been leading her and the men in the room as well. Friendly and dominant.

    Hope this helps dude!
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    Default Re: Need advice after a bad night

    you have 2 options... confront her if you think you need her validation or just ignore it and keep gaming her. remember you are your own worst enemy.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Need advice after a bad night

    Are you sure you're not just over thinking this? I mean, how much do you really think they could have achieved in 10 minutes? For all you know she could have been asking about you.. He may have tried to put a sleazy move on her and made you look 100 times better.

    I think the most important question is what were you doing while she was talking to other guys and then, when they walked back in the room?
    Did you look angry or hurt? Were you staring at them awkwardly and uncomfortably?
    These things can do much more damage than not being the most interesting person in the world.

    "thinking it would be pretty laid back and easy because I have hooked up with her previously"
    So you got comfortable and stopped gaming her? Guys will tell you that even in a relationship you still need to be gaming, I haven't been in a relationship for a long time so I don't know. The point is you hooked up once, she doesn't owe you anything.

    "so she started getting a lot of attention from other guys"
    This is good for you. Let the other schmucks drool over her and tell her how beautiful she is. Be confident enough to know she will see right through it and come back to you because you're cooler than them.

    "it became difficult to remain more interesting than everyone else "
    Be careful not to become needy and approval seeking when this happens. Don't be interesting, be interested!!

    Keep gaming her as per usual, and if inviting her to hang with your fraternity is a problem then go out and do stuff 1 on 1.
    Confronting her about walking off with your friend for 10 minutes is going to come off as super needy and insecure. If it's possible, I would pretend you didn't even notice she was gone.

    Good luck and welcome to the forums

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    Default Re: Need advice after a bad night

    You are like bringing a rabbit to a pool of wolf, just like our people always say that don't bring girls to night club.

    If you are unsure of what that girl had do with your friend, go ask her and tell them you are curious about that.

    If they did hook up...it's really depends on you whether you still want this girl or not.

    You want her a gf or hookup buddy?

    If hookup buddy, then it's also depends on you (I usually will dump this girl if she hook up with my friend in front of me).

    If gf, I advice you not to. You can really find a better one..

    Discover more place in your surrounding and make some female friends to know where the hot girls hang out.

    You deserve better, bro.


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