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Thread: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

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    Default I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    I cheated on my gf of 3 months last night by making out with two of my good female friends at the same time in the bathroom at the bar. I feel terrible and disgusted at myself for doing that. I love my gf and she doesn't deserve that. Yes, we've gone through rough times, but thats no excuse.

    She likes to do drugs (like pot and bars) and smoke cigarets every now and then and she knows I hate that cause I find it very unattractive, but I found out that she was still doing it behind my back and talking a little bit bad behind my back.

    I do not want to break up with her because I still believe that there is something special between us and that things are looking better. I know for a damn fact that I will NEVER make that type of decision again and do not want to tell her.

    I know everyone does things behind their partners back every now and then (I know this is a bit extreme) but this is still no excuse. I would have never though of myself doing this ever in my life. I do not want to lose her.

    What should I do???

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    Default Re: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    Im not a fan of seeking other people's approval. I say this to you because i don't know why you think you should try to be as clean as you can be. Mistakes exist for a reason--so you can learn from them. Realize that more than likely your GF does bad habits out of recreational purpose. Drugs and bad habits are great ways to kill some time and be in your own world. A social circle keeps the environment going too. Once you understand these prinicples you will understand why people act the way they do.

    When you start to judge people you forget about your insecurities by pointing out other people's weaknesses. My personal opinion is let people make mistakes and learn from tthem.

    As for your guilt and problem. If you feel bad and thinks she needs your honesty in the relationship tell her. Dont give details right away--let her decide what she wants to hear in details. Most guys would probably hide it. If you want to be honest then put it out there. If she's amazing maybe she'll see where you're coming from and see that you've learned your lesson but she's going to not trust you in regards to kissing other girls. If trust is an issue then i suggest you use qualifacation to bridge your trust back with her.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    What should I do???
    if your partner doesn't find out about it, just sweep it under the rug like it never happened. don't create problems for yourself by telling her what you did out of guilt.

    She likes to do drugs (like pot and bars) and smoke cigarets every now and then and she knows I hate that cause I find it very unattractive, but I found out that she was still doing it behind my back and talking a little bit bad behind my back.
    ah, I agree with you on this one, i feel like girls who do drugs lack self respect. I don't want a junkie for a girlfriend.

    however, everybody smokes pot these days (and honestly its the least harmful of all the drugs she could be doing) but I would make her stop doing bars or any other drugs.


    I do not want to break up with her because I still believe that there is something special between us and that things are looking better.
    there's no need to break up with her unless she starts doing heroine.... then... break up with her.

    do what your heart tells you. figure out what your reasons for staying with her are, and see if they out way the negative things about her.

    but whatever you do, don't stay with a girl just because your lonely or because she's hot or good in bed. stay with a girl because you truly like who she is.

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    Default Re: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    There are some secrets that should die with you

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    Default Re: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    I believe that if you can open up your heart and meet more girls, you will meet someone better...

    Kissing is not such a big case, dude. You are over-reacting.

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    Default Re: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    I understand that you feel guilty, which does show that you have some decency. I commend you for setting high standards for yourself.

    It could be the incident was a result of feeling you are not getting what you need out of the relationship you have. I remember one of your previous threads where you have a problem with her drug use and saying things about you behind your back.

    If you trust you female friends, and know they won't let it slip then I think you can carry that to the grave. Otherwise, if you believe she'll eventually find out, tell her before someone else does. Express your sorrow and guilt over the incident, and tell her that you'll never do it again, then she might give you a second chance.

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    Default Re: I cheated on my gf. Feel terrible.

    Look on the bright side if your gf doesn't want to be with you over you kissing the other two girls you have a very easy threeway with the other two girls,

    Just a thought.....
    "A man who stands for nothing, will fall for anything" - Malcom X


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