I need some advice regarding one girl that I see very often and that is/was obviously attracted to me. I noticed her being around me often, although we werent talking that often. We had smalltalk sometimes and there I noticed her laughing very loud about things that werent that funny for example. Also I noticed her looking at me often, sometimes staring at me and when I looked at her she was looking away. So yeah we had a walk sometimes and it was fun, we where at the same party sometimes and sooner or later she would approach me. We hugged and so on but for me it looked like she wanted a relationship what I wasnt interested in at that time. So yeah we talked sometimes and it still was fun. One day she wrote me something trivial via fb, we chatted a bit, got her number and texted her. I was sure she was totally into me and my attitude that I dont want a relationship changed because I really liked her too. Wrote her good night texts and she was investing pretty much, writing very long text messages.
Then something changed, it got weird and a bit creepy. I normally dont have that much time for texting and I got the impression that she was unhappy with that and mad when I wasnt writing her but was online to arrange things or answer messages. But at a point I think I came off needy and wrote her too much/often. Then at the weekend I was out partying and was offline for about 12 hours, wrote her the next day and she was a bit unwelcoming and wasnt investing so I stopped investing too because normally girls text me and I dont have time for things that arent making me happy. So yeah when I saw her in rl later I greeted her and wanted to give her a hug but she rejected it and was pissed off, I just said "ok bye" and left her staying there. From that point I was wondering whats wrong, things got more strange and I ignored that bullshit. I saw her putting whatsapp statuses like "hope is an asshole" and "blabla understanding men isnt possible blabla" so I texted her if she eventually wants to tell me something and so on. She acted clueless so I asked her directly if she is kinda into me, she said no and reacted aggressive and bitchy. I told her why I thought that and so on and that I wanted to make things clear, she said she writes with much guys, has another guy and so on. Then at another party I had the feeling she wanted to get my attention which I didnt gave her because the whole thing was pretty much over for me as she said she isnt into me. Then she started hugging other guys, trying to make out with other guys while looking at me. I gave her no attention to that, ignored it. The next day her status was like „now youre just somebody I used to know“.
My problem with this situation is that I really liked her and she was one of the rare cases where I were able to even think about a relationship. But then there was and is all this bitchy attention seeking behaviour that pisses me off. I think I know why she does this but if Im honest I dont know how to get out of this fucked up situation. My theory is: Secretly she was a bit in love, then I got her number, she had hope and got hooked but was disappointed when she realized that I have other things to do and she doesnt get that much attention. She didnt invested that much anymore, I stopped it too. That made her even more angry at me, she wanted to make me jealous, didnt worked. Now shes acting like its over for her too.
Here are some informations that could be important too: Im above-average looking (do alot of fitness but I dont wanna come off arrogant), have a high self-esteem and I am pretty dominant. My attitude to life is that I do my thing and dont care about what others say. Making me feel insecure is nearly impossible, so these shit tests weren`t successfull. She is a 7/10 and I would say she isn´t as confident as I am.
Thank you for reading this very long text, I really appreciate your help. As you can see even if I am ignoring her bullshit games I still want her but I really don`t know how to get out of this situation.
I`m sorry for my bad english as I am not a native english speaker. So should I next her?
I hope you guys can help me with this problem.
Thank you very much and have a good day