I have a bit of a situation for which I need some advising, or simply a view from someone else's perspective. It might turn out to be a lengthy story as I feel like I need to cover the background so you could fully understand what's going on.
I am 19 years old, never been too successful with women, obviously I've had a couple of girls in my life that I've been close with, but never had a girlfriend and never f-closed. Much of it is down to reasons of my own. I have always kind of felt that if I wanted to, I could easily approach a group, I can keep a conversation going if needed and generally I think I'm not too awful. I do not think about myself as good looking, but a few girls have told me I look hot or handsome. Might be a matter of taste.
Anyway, I just graduated from high school, and there was this HB9 and whenever I saw her, walked past her, she kept looking at me, mostly from the corner of her eye, but I am sure she always looked. I had never talked to her, I did once wink towards her, but it had no outcome. She's two years younger than me.
Having graduated, I realized I might never see her again and that maybe I should contact her, just to see what happens. So exactly a week back I decided to contact her on Facebook as I knew her name. So I sent her a message, which was in another language, so every quote I type here is a rough translation.
Me: Ciao! I hope you know who this is, anyway I had planned to talk to you at school at some time, but I kept seeing you at inconvenient times so I never had the chance and I doubt that I ever happen to be at that school anymore. I'm 666 [changed] and I'd like to know what kind of a person you are
After I wrote that, I closed my computer and went off to sleep. Next morning I saw that she had messaged me 4 minutes after my message.
Her: Hey! Sadly I haven't heard your name before. But maybe by face. But very nice that you're writing
There was a festival going on at the time and I realized she was there, so it was sort of an inconvenient time to talk. We swapped few messages, but nothing remarkable because of the timing.
Question 1: How was my opening? Should I have tried to talk to her more?
The next day I saw her, totally by suprise, talking to a mate of mine. I knew the mate was kind of a wuss so no jealousy or anything. After preparing a bit I went up to them and said hi to both my mate and her. I actually had something to talk about with my mate so I did talk to him, with her overhearing the conversation. And she kept on looking at me. While talking to my mate, I occasionally looked back at her, but didn't maintain eye contact for more than 10 seconds. My excuse would be that I was talking to the mate so I couldn't only focus on her, but frankly I was too nervous to keep the eye contact going for longer. After about a minute or two she asked me if my name was 666, and obviously I said yes. She even initiated a handshake with me, in a sort of a nice to meet you way. She apologised about the sweaty palms (it was hot as hell outside), which was kind of sweet. I was sort of in a rush though and within 5 minutes of going up to them I was leaving, told them to take care and enjoy the festival. During the whole interaction it seemed to me as if she never looked away from me.
Two days later I decided to once again contact her on facebook. I started the conversation at about 6PM. It didn't really get going at first, but after a while it went smoother and we found some mutual ground. I told her 'Let's be friends!' to which she replied 'deal', and facebook friendship was exchanged. Initially she had been kind of busy and on her phone so that explains why it didn't instantaneously get going. Anyway, it turned out (and I already kind of sensed that would be the case) she was a very good, nice, you could say well raised girl. Practically no alcohol and such, so totally different from me, which I also told her. She didn't seem to be too bothered about it though.
At one point, at about 9:15PM we stumbled upon the topic of weed. She obviously had no experience and told me she stays away from those things, but for her own safety, she might want to know what it does. I told her about my experiences with weed (i'm actually a frequent smoker) and she didn't seem to be too bothered about it, said she is not pro-weed but tolerates the users. I got too carried away on the topic, though, and I talked way too much about weed. Quite frankly I wanted to get that off my chest to see if she was going to be okay with it, but yeah, I went over the line. At one point, at 9:40PM our conversation ended. The last two messages are the following:
Her: Nearly every person has an addiction of some sort
Me: Addiction is a bit too strong, but in some sense you're right.
That's how the conversation ended. She had taken her time to answer beforehand so I didn't realize she wasn't gonna answer this time, FB didn't show the infamous 'seen' thing either and hasn't shown till now, but it occurred to me after about 30 minutes. Then I thought hell with it, and decided not to write anything additional to her to avoid sounding desperate.
Looking back at it, the whole conversation kind of sucked, because I did not get the chat anywhere emotional and while I was definitely leading the conversation, it was more of forced rather than natural leading. To get the whole thing going I asked a bunch of questions. Basically no funny/flirty shit, was basically doing rapport way too early.
It's now been 3 days from that conversation. I guess I kind of scared her away with the amount of talking I did about the subject of marijuana. The question is, though, did I scare her too much? Should I message her again some day and try to start over? Or should I forget about her and move on? I'm not obsessed or anything, so if I have to let go, so be it, but given the chance I'd definitely try to get to know her better. I've read alot of the text game the past few days so I'm 100% sure I could do way better now.
So yeah, that's my story. Her looking at me when she didn't even know me and more so when I actually went up to talk to her really got under my skin. Might be just me, but I think there was something about that look. It was a stare really. It probably got too long and maybe a bit too much in detail, but like I said, I'm new to this. This is my very first post and I want to know what you guys make of my situation.