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Thread: Is it lack of attraction or what?

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    Default Is it lack of attraction or what?

    Hey folks,

    Sorry for that lengthy thread, but I am kinda confused. I messaged a chick online, she responded, we emailed back & forth & then N-closed. We texted (on Sunday)for a bit then set a date 6 days away. She kinda seemed cold after Monday texting (the first day we text), then in the middle of the week (Wednesday) She sent me a text asking what's up. etc.. .then cold again until Friday in the morning. She sent me: "I am excited to meet you tonight, can we meet at 8 instead of 7? if not, no problem) I said it was no problem.
    We met later, she seemed cool, we flirted back & forth kissed at the end. I texted her when I went home:

    Me: Hey, it was fun meeting you tonight
    Her: I had a lovely time Are you home safe & sound?
    Me: Yep! I had fun myself
    Her: Blah blah blah
    Me: Blah blah blah

    Then went cold after that, in the middle of the week again, she texted me again, we flirt back & forth, set a date for the next Sunday. Then she went cold again. Sunday morning, she texted me "I am excited to see you tonight "
    Met that Sunday for drinks, talked & flirted, there was a solid intimacy, she said:

    Her: It's weird how can you read my mind
    Me: Well, What can I say? I am awesome you know.

    She laughed then she tried to read my thoughts & analyze my character, she said:

    Her: You seem to be the kind of guy who care about others & take responsibility & considerate to other people's pain (I was talking to her earlier about experiences in the past)
    Me: I don't know you tell me later

    Had so much fun that day, then kissed at the end. An hour later, she sent me "I had so much fun Thank you so much"

    Then after that, went cold again till the next weekend, she texted me she was packing for vacation with her mom (she told me about that on the second date) then went cold after that again.
    Now, I texted her again, we were talking about different things, then I told her, we should meet next Saturday, she didn't respond for an hour or so, then she said she'd love to but she has plans with her family, But she asked if next Saturday works for me?

    Now, I am confused, why she isn't texting that much then show up on a date & flirt, then go cold then do the same over & over.
    Also, scheduling a date far away seems like an excuse to me. What do you guys think?

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    Default Re: Is it lack of attraction or what?

    She seems interested. She's probably busy. She always keeps her dates though and hasn't flaked. You just need to relax she's probably trying not to be too easy which is my explanation of her going cold.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Is it lack of attraction or what?

    If she is initiating then she is interested she just might have a lot going on .... don't have an over active imagination, just keep doing what you've been doing

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    Default Re: Is it lack of attraction or what?

    On the money by the above responses. She's probably holding back as she doesn't want to appear easy. Sounds like she wants this to be meaningful but like Marvilo said, she's probably busy so don't read too much into it and don't call her out on it as you're doing fine.

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    Default Re: Is it lack of attraction or what?

    Quote Originally Posted by drgnsfire12 View Post
    If she is initiating then she is interested she just might have a lot going on .... don't have an over active imagination, just keep doing what you've been doing
    Ya, since a girl will offer another date time, she's interest with you too.

    sometimes you will meet a girl that don't like to text because they are so busy with their life..

    I will advise you to bed her the next date and give her a good night.
    it's important for you to keep this type of girl

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    Default Re: Is it lack of attraction or what?

    Thanks guys for all your replies. Now that I read what I wrote, I noticed I forgot to mention two important details: One is the we agreed to go to an arcade bar-a huge rapport builder that works for me- for our 2nd date, she seemed very happy & excited & went like crazy, but on that day she said it's far away(about 40 miles away) & she suggested that we go to that arcade bar on "our 3rd date & go have drinks tonight".
    Then yesterday I noticed she changed her profile picture on her dating profile. I assume this means she's still fishing or not sure yet.

    Don't know if that means anything, but I feel that she sees me as a boyfriend/LTR material. Can I use that to my advantage?


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