Re: Girl acts disrespectful
I think a freeze out is great for people you live with. The important factor is how you handle it. I think he did the right thing to get her to see whats wrong. She got it clear but went defensive. People go on the defensive when they feel attacked. I hoped his wording was less emotionally damaging and goal oriented filled with qualification scenarios but theres a strong chance there wasn't. I do agree chasing her is a bad thing. At the very most i my personal opinion is to let her know you're not angry or upset but you want to work through these issues you both have. Let her know you open to discussing these issues when she's ready.
When you're addressing issues be less reactive and more productively seeking for solutions in which you both can move on from. Think of this as compromising. Its common problems in relationships to have small fights especially when you both see each other daily for long periods of time. Whats happened is that the honey moon stage is gone. You're now living with an unfiltered version of who this person is while also exhibiting the same. No one is perfect. She's not. And you aren't.
Don't harp on issues when you are trying to mend these problems. Instead suggest things you'll do to improve your side of the relationship. Rebuild qualification for both you and her so you both know how to meet half way. As you're suggesting how to maybe improve yourself leave some room open for her to add to the list. This way not everything is about your way. And then ask her to do the same while adding small hints about how she could improve things too to not set you into your red zone. The idea is compromise, solution and discussion. These are goal orient ways to understanding and approaching issues with people. When you move away from what people are doing wrong which sometimes includes yourself you move to a frame work of responsibility not only on tasks and property but also the other person's feelings.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.