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Thread: Got a number close but can't get a response

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    Default Got a number close but can't get a response

    Ok, so I work alllllll the time. From morning until after nightfall. Anyway, I usually stop at Smoothie King before work and I had been seeing this chick there who I thought was cute. At first she was all about work and I couldn't find a way to break in a opener. After a few more times seeing her I did and she was very receptive. We have a few things in common. We are both originally from California and moved to the Midwest. So small talk went on for a week or two. Mainly through the drive thru because I don't have enough time to stop in before work. So, about a week ago I stopped in and actually went inside because I have been on vacation. I wasn't going to say much to her but she started talking and asked if was off because I never come in blah blah blah. So I told her that I was off for two weeks and celebrating my birthday. I told her about some cool new places I went to and told her she was welcome to come. She said "sure" so I gave her my phone to put her number in and told her I'd hit her up later. Well, that was July 15th. I text her that day saying my name. She didn't respond. The next day I sent another saying something and still no response. So I had seen her again at Smoothie King and she was still chill so I sent her another one yesterday July 24th inviting her to join me and a friend at an international bar (she's Hawaiian and Latin so I figured she'd like that). Still nothing. Any advice?

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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    I would just move on as you sent a few messages and shes ignoring them, the other option is you could go up to her direct in conversation about it but risk coming of as really needy.....
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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    Take it from someone that's been in same situation.
    She gives you her number but never replies so basically she gave it to you to leave her alone in person and it seems she honestly doesn't want to be talked to. You can still see her in person and talk to her about it. But like Kylemc said you might come off a bit needy.
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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    Stallion,

    From the sounds of it, just because you guys got something in common and made small talk about it doesn't equate to making the girl feel attraction. The female mind doesn't work like that.

    Being playful, teasing, flirting and other thing involved in the language of emotion is key.

    "Wow, we got a lot in common. Maybe too much! Damn, that's not good! We'll never get along. We'll argue everyday and have hot make up sex after! We going to end up in therapy."

    A convo likes that sparks their attraction. So if there wasn't anything that would spark her emotions and she wasn't attracted to you based on you being her "type," there was most likely no attraction.

    One of my PUA coach was in this situation where the girl he met at a frat party was a vegan like him and he thought they were vibing based on a nice cool convo based on some specialized diet they both new about. Well, he walked in her on blowing off a guy that nite.

    If that is the case, reinforcing what My5t3rY75 said, she gave you her number out of politeness (if it is even her real number).

    Even if she has crappy phone etiquette because she was "busy," there is no excuse for just sparing a moment to acknowledge your text. How hard is that? These kind of girls I drop. If she doesn't value you like that enough, then she shouldn't deserve an ounce of your attention. Disinterest should never be rewarded.

    So confronting her is not worth it. That's giving her more value/attention than she deserved. Ultimately, you will probably get some lame excuse. I mean what are you hope to hear? Her phone broke and she never got your text?

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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    Yeah, I will keep this in mind. I appreciate your input on this situation. Very much in detail and clear. I am planning to run the "attraction sex talk" on a different chick this coming weekend. I have been dating her on and off since the beginning on June and things are really slowing down for us and I am trying to rekindle the spark and come off more sexual and less like a friend or buddy. Me and her have only had sex talks like once maaaaybe twice. I told her about a guy at my job who is constantly talking about porn to me and we had about a minute conversation on that. Before you used the "We have so much in common" opener to sex talk, my plan was to have a buddy text me about sex and bring up the text during our date and maybe even show her and then ask her sexual questions.

    Hypothetical scenario

    (Opening phone in front her and reading with a smile)

    ME: So, remember that guy at my job I was telling you about who is always talking about porn?

    HER: Yeah.

    ME: Well, he just sent me a text about sex. Asking if he thinks he should try to reenact a porn with his girlfriend. (Maybe a small filler). So, what about you? Are you the type who likes to cuddle after sex or run for the shower? Dirty talker in bed or quiet mouse?

    OPINION ON THIS?

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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    Yes, that is definitely a good way to start a convo off and you got the right idea to bring it back to 'her.'

    ...And most importantly, if you can bring it back to you as well. A good attractive convo should subcommunicate a me + you.

    You can also add in a "wait, let me guess." Then say something completely outrageous. "It's neither of those. I bet you like to take a shower in Petrone [or your favorite drink] and have it licked off."

    If she doesn't like that kind of drink then disqualify her playfully.

    You can also ask her that if she ever does porn what would her porn star name be? If she can't think of one tell her a good starting point would be by making a game out of it.

    The name of your favorite pet (of the same gender) + the name of the street you grew up on.

    Tell her your pornstar name.

    And ultimately ending which "So if we ever starred in the same movie it would be [XXX] movie starring [your pornstar name] + [her pornstar name] and the money selling scene would be her taking a shower in your favorite drink and having it licked off. lol (back to an earlier topic)

    This is a good convo thread that I can totally go off on to create a very fun challenging convo with attraction triggers. This is speaking the language of emotion. If get good at speaking this way, that is a huge advantage in your active game.

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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    mortal, reading your posts makes me think i'll never get good at this :/ I feel i'm too freaking slow to come up with these things to say within the time constraints of a conversation.

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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    @Daffy - Nah that is totally untrue. You'd be amazed what your human brain is capable of.

    Can you speak another language? Well, it's like learning to speak a different language, except way easier. I hear this all the time with guys making excuses like "I'm too logical to speak in such a silly whimsical way." Those are just excuses not to go out of your comfort zone to improve. If you are a very logical person, it's just a matter of exercising a different part of your brain that you are not use to.

    You speak English. When you speak, you don't really "think" right? You are at a point in your proficiency where it just comes instinctively. Hence, fluent and even idiomatic (if you can imitate dialects).

    Sure, being witty helps, but for those who aren't, there is a rudimentary formula to this. If you are serious about getting better, I would pick up MeHow's 3 second attraction to see how a high value conversation is broken down. It's the best book I know of right now that explains the mechanics of the language of emotion.

    Then of course, like any language, you have to go out there and apply it to become more fluent. You don't use it, you lose it. Same thing here. I use strip clubs as my language lab. The girls there usually approach you and are receptive.

    I am considering writing a book on this one day, specifically for this type of "speak." Might be a nice demand out there for the "Chick Whisperer" lol.

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    Default Re: Got a number close but can't get a response

    Good job building a connection through mere exposure of seeing her. I would of had her text me from her phone so I know I definitely have her number and it shows her initiating the conversation on text first. You're putting too much thought and planning on the opener.
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