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Thread: Cluelesssss advice??

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    Default Cluelesssss advice??

    Hey Guys,

    I've been texting this girl for a few days since I am currently away at the moment, anyway I can't tell if she's interested or im in the friendzone. I know im not in the friendzone from what it seems but at the same time I am not sure if shes interested for example the day I was out with her before going away I was kinoing and she would kino back sometimes....

    When I was leaving that night I ended up walking home with her and two other people but it was mainly us to walking as the other two were walking faster. She was telling me she would buy me a drink the next time we're both out (Take that as a ioi?) she also gave me a hug before leaving.

    On texts she said to me I would have to keep her amused. I said im not a entertainer and flaked on her for the night then today I didnt reply to her first message she sent a second one apologizing for taking to long.

    She also asks when will I be back then plays it off claiming I miss her...

    Any idea on how to proceed? as this is the first time I feel clueless on whether im friendzoned or she has interest...
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    Default Re: Cluelesssss advice??

    From the way you've described things, it sounds to me like she is interested. BE CONFIDENT! BE STRONG! Be entertaining but make her work for it. Giver her compliance tests, if she complies, giver her an IOI, and test her again. If she ever fails the test, neg her, DHV, and test her again. Your tests should gradually become "more difficult" and a compliance test could be loads of different things. From "Hold my drink." to kino to sex.

    If I were you, I'd probably send her a text that said something like:
    "You owe me a drink. I'll let you get it for me tomorrow night at xxx."

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    Default Re: Cluelesssss advice??

    You seem to think some things she says are bad... Regardless you need to handle them in a playful way and tease her so you dont take it as hostility but as flirting... Its up to you to turn up the heat and make her chase you
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Cluelesssss advice??

    You shouldn't have flaked on her. It shows you being reactive and is not good game practice in general to flake. She was teasing you when she said you had to keep her amused. Same thing when she said that you will miss her. You break rapport with her back when she does that. Start doing that and escalate when you see her.
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    Default Re: Cluelesssss advice??

    @WillEdward: Thinking over it now it was a bad idea but when I flaked it was 2am in the morning....

    @Artandale: I notice it now that it sounds hostile but I was only after she said you would have to amuse me at the time I was thinking she was trying to make me a puppet now looking over the conversation obviously not her intention but rather my mistake turning hostile and ruining the conversation.

    @Maverick1027: I'm trying to improve on calibration in general so far its been off a little but overall it hasn't been bad...
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    Default Re: Cluelesssss advice??

    I tolerate a lot because most people don't know how to communicate. I don't react first unless i've properly judged people. Id say it usually takes me about 2 weeks for most people to show their true colors. Within the first hour of meeting people the impression is important because most people don't know how to hide their feelings. I suggest you do some inner game work and find out how you work and how you play with others outside of this current issue. I see many bumpy roads if you don't address this. Don't look for the perfect answers--look for answers that will do right now so you can gauge them as you grow. Keep a check and balance system in place so you know you're not over reacting or not acting enough. Work on yourself as you continue your game.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Cluelesssss advice??

    I love this forum!! 3 pieces of excellent and succinct advice in 45 minutes! Impressive and you guys rock.


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