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    Default disqualifications and negging? How to discuss what I do?

    I dont like to neg people- and i feel like when I do i can be hurtful or scare them away. Are there certain women who I shouldnt ever neg or disqualify? I mean what if they are not as attractive as me, or clearly appear shy when they see me. Should I treat them nicely?

    I dont think I'll be talking to HB 9-10 anytime soon. Maybe 7-8s. And I'm afraid these girls are insecure enough that negging or disqualifying may hurt them especially if I consider myself high status in looks and career (though my past makes me a nervous chump that I have only recently worked on).

    What do I tell girls when they ask what I do? I'm a 4th year med student and I feel like either 1- they'll like me because of that or 2. I'll come across like a doofus. If they ask I want to say- I'm in the healthcare industry. If they probe- I'm a healthcare delivery expert. If they ask what that is then tell them. Or should I redirect and not answer at that point (forcing them to find out later and not having to wonder if they like me only because im going to be a doctor).

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    Default Re: disqualifications and negging? How to discuss what I do?

    Jayk,

    The difference between a neg and disqualifying a girl is a disqualification is self-amusing. It is done is a playful manner. It's giving her value and done with a playful "takeaway" and giving her value again. For example:

    "OMG [HER NAME], I love the fact that you go the the gym and care about your health like me. A lot of people put their health on the backburner these days. But too bad you are a vegan. Or else I would totally fall in love with you."

    Or play a game with her:
    YOU: "Being my boyfriend is a tough job to get. You gotta pass a test"
    HER: "Oh really, what kind of test?"
    YOU: "It's easy but you'd be amazed how many girls get it wrong."
    "Question #1: Chocolate or vanilla"
    HER: Chocolate.
    YOU: Question #2: Cuddling by the fireplace or walking on the beach?
    HER: Cuddling
    YOU: Question #3: Kissing on the neck or massaging the feet?
    HER: Massaging.

    YOU: Damn [HER NAME] I really like you, but you only got 2 out of 3 correct. But it's okay. You got the important ones right.

    As for girls asking you what you do. You got 2 choices.

    1. Just tell them the goddamn truth. Women are attracted to status. They will usually date guys with equal or higher value. By telling them what you do, you are DHVing yourself. You are creating what is called "passive value" for yourself. Don't ever skimp out on this. Don't ever think you ever have to rely on an active game to get girls.

    2. You can mess around with them. Tell them you are a male exotic dancer. You need a new stage name and want her to come up with one for you. Or tell them to take a guess. And they got only 3 tries. If they get them all wrong, they have to buy you dinner. And if they get it right, you have to take them to dinner. lol. Eventually, tell them the truth. But I kept up the guessing game for 5 months with the girl that I am dating. She said "I don't think it's safe, leaving me wondering like that" (nice IOI).

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    Default Re: disqualifications and negging? How to discuss what I do?

    This is really good stuff. Appreciate your input.

    Why is it that this forum has excellent advice and the others are not so good? IE this one has good members and the other forums have people who are as unskilled as i am providing information?


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