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    Default how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    I definitely want natural game but I feel like I've robbed myself of so much past experiences that I need to read on these things to accelerate my learning. Guys with 10 years of experience are well ahead of me when I'm 28 and the last kiss I had with a girl was when I was 21- 7 years ago and that was painstakingly done - and a disaster. I want to learn everything I can and practice all I can so that when I move to the big cities (hopefully Dallas) I can work on using that game to meet beautiful women.

    I want to feel comfortable as a short person. That is my ideal goal. Everyday is fine, but I want to work on it so that when I see another guy I won't automatically think damn even if I talk to a girl she's going to skip out on me for the next 6 foot guy.

    What can I do so that I can reprogram my mind away from these negative thoughts. Is there something I can do daily that can let me view myself in a more positive light instead? Something I can do instantly to refocus and then decide- I'm a great guy forget his height I am great for my own natural energy. How do I project that? Thats what I want to master. If I master this then I am my own revolution.

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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    It's never too late to become a "natural" with women. The more you game, the more comfortable you become and it just becomes a way of life. You can do positive daily affirmations to build up your state and use visualization techniques to envision the person you want to become.
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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    1) Clothing

    Check out some men's fashion sites, google images, etc and find a cool, modern style that matches you and then fill your closet. It doesn't have to be expensive. I put together tight ass outfits from Goodwill. I have a girl who works at goodwill and sends me tight clothes all the time. Style is NOT about brand.

    The reason I say clothing is because a well dressed man gets positive attention from women just from looking well put together. It is a huge confidence boost to get complimented on your style for doing nothing but walking down the street.

    Its a passive thing, but I feel loads of confidence when I dress well and know I look good in the mirror.

    2)Develop a cool hobby/talent.

    Personally, I developed skills as a harmonica player over last few years. It has completely changed my life! What was once a grueling climb up a mountain, is now a walk in the park. Choose something, become an expert in it. Then you'll have the confidence to speak on that subject authoritatively.

    3)Work out!

    If you gotta be short, then at least get ripped! The only short guys who can't get laid are the fat dumplings. Never knew a short, stacked guy to not find hot women. Fashioning yourself a good body is hot for girls, and the natural endorphins and testosterone will get you off and make you feel much more confident.

    If you do the above 3 things, learning game becomes icing on a finely layered cake, and confidence and girls come from that.

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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    Working out, getting tatted, going out. These are my daily reinforcers. I buy nice clothes and I try to look my best but even when I look my best if I don't go up to anyone and talk to then my night turns sour. So yes hitting the ground running is the best launch path. A slow burn night is okay if you are only gaming 9's and 10's. Whichever path you take choose the path to liberation.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    Yeah I am definitely a strong guy my problem is that I can't seem to build mass. thats something I'm trying to do. Most guys I know though are definitely on something and I'm afraid of using any enhancers.

    If you know of anyways to do so I would love to hear it.

    Also- I think I have a very good style BUT I only recently realized how limited my style was. Bright stand out colors are definitely the way to attract women.

    i wore a bright green shirt the other day and I swear women were jumping me with their eyes. I never realized how attractive standing out was until I got CBT and became more comfortable in my own shoes.

    Awesome advice on how style is more important than brand!

    In terms of hobbies I plan to learn how to sing and play the guitar. Also sign language. To broaden my opportunities. with HB-D-10s.

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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    Quote Originally Posted by jayk238 View Post
    Yeah I am definitely a strong guy my problem is that I can't seem to build mass. thats something I'm trying to do. Most guys I know though are definitely on something and I'm afraid of using any enhancers.

    If you know of anyways to do so I would love to hear it.

    Also- I think I have a very good style BUT I only recently realized how limited my style was. Bright stand out colors are definitely the way to attract women.

    i wore a bright green shirt the other day and I swear women were jumping me with their eyes. I never realized how attractive standing out was until I got CBT and became more comfortable in my own shoes.

    Awesome advice on how style is more important than brand!
    If you are actively working out EAT and eat constantly. For a guy.bulking up you should shovel serious calories every day, a full healthy meal 4 times a day. Portions should be big. You need a lot of extra calories to bulk up, as much as 3000 a day.

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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    It's all about choosing the right perspective. In every situation you can choose to look at the positive side or the negative one.

    For example, you're really farking hungry and you want a slice of pizza really bad but when you came in, the guy tells you that all the pies are gone and you have to wait 10mins. for the next batch.

    There are THREE perspectives in this situation:
    1. Get pissed
    "fark! I hate this place! I hate this guy!"

    2. Beat your self up
    "Not again! I'm so shitty I can't even get a pizza. I'm gonna die alone and get eaten by cats.

    3. Look at the bright side
    "Fresh out of the oven pizza for lunch! SCORE!"

    Do pull-ups, with proper form (Controlled motion, no kipping) I swear it will help you get bigger and stronger. Also if you want to build mass, eat a lot. When I say eat a lot, I mean high protein, high-low carbs. I can explain the logic behind all this shit to you but it will take tons of time so just research about it/ ask instructors. And as always everybody will have different opinions be sure to follow the one that works best for you

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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    I don't worry about anything I just work out and 180lbs. My Gym instructor is where I want to be but he says 185 and only 6'1? So I am 6'3 should I be like 195 then? That's what I am guessing. Anyway stuck at 180 and can't move up till I stop working 60+ hours every week to pay for all my tatts. When it slows down in a couple years I can work getting in peak shape but will keep hitting the Gym for now and eventually 4 days a week 2 hours a day. Now just 1 hour a day 3-4 days a week.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
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    Default Re: how to work on insecurities and constant negative reminders

    Quote Originally Posted by JackSarge View Post
    I don't worry about anything I just work out and 180lbs. My Gym instructor is where I want to be but he says 185 and only 6'1? So I am 6'3 should I be like 195 then? That's what I am guessing. Anyway stuck at 180 and can't move up till I stop working 60+ hours every week to pay for all my tatts. When it slows down in a couple years I can work getting in peak shape but will keep hitting the Gym for now and eventually 4 days a week 2 hours a day. Now just 1 hour a day 3-4 days a week.
    Dude your tat work must be the shiz. I have 2 twin angels playing harmonica on my forearms, one with horns and a tail in a short red dress and fishnet stockings and the other in short white dress and stockings with blue garters and golden halo. They are "upside down" because when I play harp on stage they stand up from the POV of the audience. Tat guys ask me all the time why my angels are reversed from tradition. One or two try to give me shit about it, but I never considered getting entire pieces done. I love my tats and will never regret them.

    As long as they aren't trendy pieces of crap, tats definitely bring something out in women.


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