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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    Okay I think I got it. When I took a pic at the Gym I think it dawned on me..I am starting to look dang good. So I am going to hit the weights even more dedicated than ever! Call me what you want but I am a Jack of all trades sort of. A Gym rat, Club Rat, Bar Fly, Tattoo Junkie, Workhorse, and Hipster. But working on the hipster part. Not too overboard. Anyway when this all pans out I will have a very interesting me.

    But I think I get it. The scales are screwed up. Online women have ALL the power getting bombarded daily by dudes on their FB, POF, Tinder so you read a post and has like 20 dudes trying to get some. But at the Club? Dudes are mostly chilling man not the same. Guys have all the power in real life since girls will get hit on but it is easy to stand out. Maybe this is why I love real life vs Online world? Guys are afraid to approach so online is easier for them and women are far more selective whereas in-field it seems like I can pretty much own the Club and walk up to nearly any girl without a dude like nothing.

    So I think I will focus on improving myself day by day and say what you will but I got tatted for women and women won't leave me alone about my tatts always grabbing for my shirt. That's exactly what I wanted. So I am going to overhaul this thing and try to finish in 2 years time. In the meantime keep sarging and spinning plates but yeah forget messaging them and who cares I got blocked? Not like she was talking to me anyway. It started with women but now I won't rest till I am a success in life and got a real good job waiting for me when I am ready to make the jump in a couple years. From rags to riches.

    Anyways like you say the problem is "scarcity" mindset and mainframe. Basically all these dudes bombarding chicks online makes it harder to stand out so I am going to stop trying and start being more of a prick who speaks my mind. So dudes calling me a try hard on FB because I flattered the model. Anyway when you approach it is guaranteed talking 90% and free from other dudes so value vs online goes KABOOM. No wonder in-field I am making getting numbers look like candy, less competition and because tons of other hot chicks they are less resistent whereas online they think they are the Queen not to be triffled with. In real life guys have the power of selection where online women have the power. It's all a power game. Numbers don't lie! 40 HB numbers in-field vs 0 online and believe me I have tried and will keep trying.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    Dude.....just.....du de lol.

    You gotta forgive yourself. You will always make a mistake, even a little one, that can cost you the girl. Trying to get her back so you can either obtain your perfect pickup record or just to show her that her impression of you is wrong is just.....unnecessary . A true pickup artist shrugs his shoulders when he makes a mistake cause he understands that it's a part of life, he's human, and he'll live. He doesn't stress about it for a year beating himself up. It's not helping you at all.

    Is it possible to get her at this point. Maybe, yea. Why not. Can you do it in your current state? Not so sure.

    I've been in your shoes. Thinking I wasn't doing anything drastic and cost me the girl. Like having a chance to sleep with her then holding off for that night cause you're sure you'll see her tomorrow only then she gets back with her ex and your stuck with blue balls. I've forgiven myself and even chuckle about it. Learned from it. You should do the same.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    It sounds like you're starting to have the right mindset. The online game can work - even for you - if you know how to play it.

    What I have started recommending to people is: before you start learning PUA techniques, learn to go out and just have fun and be social with people. Be the life of the party and make picking up girls one of the last things on your mind. When you are comfortable like that, you are ready to learn the Venusian Arts.

    You said:
    "I can pretty much own the Club and walk up to nearly any girl without a dude like nothing."

    Why should that stop you? Just because there is a guy with a girl does not mean they are dating - or, if they are, it doesn't mean she wants to date him. Or, if they are, it doesn't mean she's exclusive. Seeing a guy with a girl shouldn't deter you from approaching. But, get out of the mindset of approaching the girl. Like I said in the previous paragraph, approach the group and make friends. Be fun. Even if the guy and girl are serious (and you learn this after you've opened the group) then you have still DHVed because everyone else sees you as being someone that is fun to talk to.

    Anyway...good luck!

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    @Batman after contacting our Young Stallion and guiding him back to center and bring him back to course I of course found myself a little more today. My dancing just went platinum freaking crazy but whatever. Finding myself has been hard but I saw her again and finally fit the pieces together.

    She called me her "love" no joke literally her actual words "be here next weekend love?" And "what are you doing tonight sweetheart ?"

    Sadly I know after our blowout she vanished and it all makes sense because she was holding out for me in that moment and her world stopped but my world just started to spin because I said "hitting the bar" and I have gone platinum there finding tens and having them call me Star Prince but whatevs.

    Anyway her world stopped and she was ready.

    I realize the answer to my question was within as my struggle was within.

    As I told Young Stallion "Look you can never look to a girl to lead you for leaving it up to her will never work"

    It was in that that I realized my time with her was real and she was ready so now I know girls will wait for the right guy but if the right guy comes along and they are ready they will never wait if they are giving him the "signal". She gave me the signal in bright pretty colors and I missed it and royally biffed it. Maybe one day I'll see her at a show or at a Pool Party to snag my redemption doesn't friggin matter she has moved on. So have I.

    My new love has found herself in me and I in her. Like a star craven lunatic she has been posting like the loneliest person ever about people coming with her to concerts, swimming, and so forth after she met me. I appeared to said event tonight just to spite her and she gave me the prettiest look. I hear her giggling with her friends about me and she gave me that look of lust as she left.

    Still set for our tattoo date she is not wavering and neither am I. Due to the wait she has been acting like the loneliest person ever because I am ignoring her and it is working only because she is in my dreamworld now and I run a tight ship.

    Her words no joke "you can have me whenever you want". When it is thrown out for you like that then of course she will have to wait for my next adventure and then we will embark on a concert "fark" Fest hopefully in the near future. Seems promising. In other news my pickup has gotten so good at work on my 5th work GF and we had the talk again about girls monopolizing me since I was promoted so the girls see my mojo and taken full grasp of it. They can sense my congruence going platinum.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    I think I can let go now if only to but offer these words that ring so true to our Dear Stallion. May the stars align for you in your quest. From our private PM it all made sense and I can let go now that I grappled with it.

    Me: "Be there for her in presence extending your hand saying this is me not giving a fark what you want this is what I want"

    "Because when you take that leap and begin to lead you will understand as I have some struggles are better left to fate."

    I see guys looking for the girls to lead and losing themselves in them. But once a guy looks for a girl to lead him he loses himself and essentially game over.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    Nope I am afraid I can't let go. Will do whatever it takes. My bartender is so good to me. For my game she gets me in free any night I want and free drinks progressively more expensive. Any way I can't let go must redeem myself. So I am using my social proof that I am in good with to put in a good word for me about the Cocktail Waitress that gave up on me. Basically she won't talk to me and blocked me so I let the bartender know to let her know I still have feelings for her but this other girl is in the picture so uhh let me figure that out first. So essentially it ain't over till I can get the Cocktail Waitress in isolation which is near impossible aside from Pool Parties which I ain't going till next year so I told her to tell her I am waiting.

    I don't care anymore when you have feelings for someone they don't go away and I can't get any feelings for this new girl . She is giving me the world saying yes to all these concerts and believe we are going but I promise you I feel nothing for her other than for a fun ride. I hate getting old and wise cuz you get in touch with your feelings and things make more sense.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    Theres nothing wrong with getting older. It just means you know more about what you want.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    She just messaged me...the cocktail waitress. My plan with the Bartender worked she talked to her and she contacted me last night.

    It was bad! She completely denied ever having feelings for me which I know is a lie and she denied her own words so she is just in denial to make me look like a douchbag. She sent me a long message and said "never contact me again, WTF is wrong with you?, you are an A-hole, get lost, I hate you, you know the works. I just came back and said okay it is done and I got the wrong idea about us.

    Sadly my past cannot be redeemed she just rejected me. I accepted it with open arms and no hostility because of all the abundance. In the end it was just a game and she never did realize that. So she said she is hurt but I am not. If she didn't have feelings for me then why would she be hurt? That makes no sense. Man this sucks but rejection usually hurts a lot worse but I feel like a boss. Maybe I really am growing up. I decided to be happy in spite of rejection because confidence is sexy.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack

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    Default Re: Letting go of the past?

    You have the right mindset. Now that you've learned from the experience time to keep gaming. Good luck
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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