Re: Too much to go to a bar just to see a hostess and ask her out?
Never go direct. Social Proof , become a regular and talk everytime you see her. One time shot is a shot in the dark and I never advise unless they ask you. The Cocktail Waitress tried to pick me up after talking to her and seeing her for a while but again I got the bartenders phone number because I Social Proofed and waited till the right timing. Going direct is too awkward. Make it subtle. This only applies to Hired Guns but other variables exist.
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