Re: How to communicate properly and control what you say
I don't know of a guide but i'd say every texting thread is pretty much all the same. Usually the guy freaks out about why a girl isn't responding and over reacting based upon what he said. If you notice in most conversations in text what makes it to hard to bite down on is the tension across days or weeks with a person. Texting should be seen as a long form text based conversation rather than a normal face to face with real time conversation. The rules are the same--time is the only ever changing variable.
When you put yourself out there taking risks--make sure your intent is clear. But dont over think it. Your life doesnt depend on this interaction. Your taking risks because YOU COULD GO EITHER WAY WITH OR WITH OUT HER INTERACTION. When she reads the risk as likely probable to strongly consider the risk. Chances are she wont say yes but will let you proceed so she can let her mind be over taken by the feelings instead of over thinking things. When you as her to challenge herself in the middle of an act she's no longer recieving the attention and now forced into giving. Let her decide to give or recieve input or whatever. When you present it to her and its clear if she isnt backing off then she's going to let you go as far as she's willing to take the risk--depending on how good your interactions are with her. This power of deniablity gives her the last minute choice to pull any card including LMR. You can't decide for her.
Lastly hold your frame of intent. Most guys fail at this. They get thrown off the horse and get stuck on why they fell off the ride instead of getting right back on it to ride. You are there for the girl don't be there for the problems. And lets be totally honest here the only reason why you want the girl is because you want to be happy--so make yourself happy and the girl will come. If the conversation is drying out--take the lead and move on to something else in the conversation or isolate or distract. Most importantly is to lead.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.