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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Quote Originally Posted by G0ldwing View Post
    She lives a 6 hour drive away from me. So there's no *date* or anything we can get to. I'm not entirely sure how this is going to work, but I'm mainly practicing. I mean, who doesn't want to pull a chick with DDs

    In real life, I'm not quite as ballsy and upfront and challenging/playful.
    Is there any way to make that my default state?
    Being ballsy is as easy as putting your intent that you like the chick out there. It doesnt have to be grabby or needy... Just be honest in these situations and you're already ballsy. You just need to experience more with being yourself.

    As for gaming a chick long distance its possible. I suggest you still plan out a meet up. If she wants to meet you she'll make herself available. Put it out there. You never know what will happen. Say yes to everything (just be cautious when you're in the situation when it gets crazy). When she realizes that you really want to meet up she'll either flake or commit. If she flakes then its time to move on or get her to commit. When you meet up because of the distance she will know what to expect because she's expecting some kind of connection. She knows that if you went out of your way to meet her you want to connect. And if you don't connect then why not game others?
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Quote Originally Posted by acepace View Post
    Mind explaining how to transition from bantering into comforting her in his example?

    The teasing and bantering is called breaking rapport and you want to do that from time to time, right?
    Banter is just another way of saying conversing. It doesnt matter what you talk about because its just that you're talking. You could banter about the weather, sports, whatever. Don't over complicate it. It just is the sum of conversing.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Sorry for the long read, just had to get the full convo in there. I was wearing really nice clothing and felt really confident. I was in a good state. *Not my normal state*
    So my questions are:
    How can I always be fun, challenging and playful like that
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    How can I keep her attracted to me like she was in the conversation?
    This was good. You actually broke rapport at moments and didn't realize it. You were a challenge to her.

    You would always want to be in the moment. If you are unable to, usually it is because your social energy is low. Do you feel yourself getting tired in social situations fast? It could mean you are an introvert. If so, you just need to exercise those "muscles" by being more interactive in social environments and talk to other women. I equate this to driving. You drive for long time and even though your body is still, you still get tired because you are concentrating.

    This was text game. You need to translate this now to in person game.
    What you say in text needs to be congruent to how you are as a person. This is your mind speaking, so you just need to think as quick on your feet and adapt to social situations. This is known as wit. As for the language of emotion, you are literate. You can read it and you can write it, but I'm thinking you can't speak it. Only way to get better at any language is go out there and apply it (as I previously mentioned).

    I'm guessing, in person you are like many guys. You default to logic and make boring conversation with small talk.

    You know how I got good at the language of emotion? I went to strip clubs and all I did there was talk to strippers.

    And always remember - Just because she is your girlfriend/or wife, it doesn't give you a reason to get comfortable, secure and let your guards down. That is how relationships fizzle out.

    Always be dating your girlfriend or spouse. Treat your girlfriend or spouse as if you would a mistress.


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