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    Default Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Hey guys!
    I came back from summer camp as a counsellor and I've been practicing pua, and talking to girls. I had this girlfriend for literally 2 days and she was kinda awkward around me after I had asked her out. Before I did she was all over me. At one point she was trying to teach her friends how to grind and I suggested it be easier to demonstrate on me. But after I asked her out, it seemed like my value dropped or something. After some 4 days of being awkward, we mutually broke up. It's been roughly 4 days since I saw her. She's talking to me on facebook and said "i know you're probably asleep right now, but im just gonna message you anyways cuz i really really feel like talking to you right now, and i know it's weird, but at least it sorta kinda makes me feel better" She's into me now again, but for some reason whenever I get a girl attracted to me, she loses interest quickly. This girl lives 6 hrs away by car and I want to be prepared for next year and future reference.

    How do I keep a girl attracted to me for more than just a couple days?

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Sounds like you scared her off. You don't need to "ask her out". Actions speak louder than words.

    She was probably having a lot of fun doing all that sexy stuff with you, but as soon as you get to the serious part, she freaked out.

    Let me give you a personal example. My current gf of 10 months, we've never had the "going out" talk. It all happened naturally. We met at a party, spent some time together with no pressure and eventually realized we are in this for the long run.

    In my opinion, you have the tools to keep them attracted. You're not boring. But don't get too serious too soon. Keep things light for couple weeks, even couple months. Show that you're attracted to her, rather than saying at first. This has a much bigger impact on them.

    Good luck with your future endeavours.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    I think youre fine. You just have to remember that you have to emotionally connect and break rapport equally to keep her attracted to you. If you go too much one way she'll friend zone you or think you're only in for sex. Remember--you make your results. Don't over think it too much but be responsible and take charge of your signals and intentions you're putting out there
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Learn to flirt... And to lead the interactions.
    That's where it all begins.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Thanks guys, I was talking to her yesterday and she was really attracted to me, I could tell. But today she's not into me again... I can get them attracted for a short while, get things done.. but after a while of not talking to that person even for a day. They lose attraction immediately. I'll show you my conversation with her yesterday:

    Her: also i gots a queeestion
    do you want to see how slutty my new dance costume is?? im like, y is this ok to make girls perform in, like what??

    Me: Only if you put it on

    Her: i still haven't put pants on yet XD but sure

    Me: Geez you're so slow. I'm losing interest

    Her: sorry, i couldn't find it, and then i decided i wasn't photogenic, but i finally got my picture

    Me: Show me

    Her: its a really bad picture but i dont care at this point

    Me: Great, show me

    Her: I couldn't find the head piece thingy but thats ok

    *insert slutty photo with tons of cleavage here*

    Her: the friken spandex are like underwear

    Me: That's not a very good photo. There's too much cleavage. And you're missing the headband

    Her: XD you're so mmeeaannn

    Her: failure *DX* i dont even emoticon bro

    Me: I would hate to see a photo of you with more cleavage.

    Her: oh shut up, you love it

    Her: i can't help it it's just there and it wont go away!!!

    Me: Let it be free! I need to see a photo with the headband otherwise it doesn't work. And less cleavage I hate cleavage

    Her: you're so picky, i can't even find the head band, but it's like feathery and looks like a peacock tail and i have a little feathery skirt thing that goes on the back of the spandex but i cant find that either and the picture... well, i just can't even take a decent picture today

    Me: Why aren't the pictures decent

    Her: i just cant selfie today

    Me: You're not truly a white girl

    Her: thank god

    Me: Sophie. You're going to take a horizontal selfie from afar, with the headband and the tail and you're not gonna have any cleavage. You have to promise me there will be no cleavage

    Her: i can't XC the "shirt" thingy is really small and theres cleavage no matter what, also i can't take selfies and i have no idea where the tail and head band are, i think they're at my dance studio and my instructor probably doesn't want me to wear them until the performance, i'm sorry, but i can't always be a good girl, that's just how it has to be,

    Me: That's too bad, because cleavageless good girls are totally my type

    Her: i hate you right now...

    Me: No, you love me right now.

    Her: oh wait no i don't.... i just really don't like you right now

    Her: if you WANT me to love you then you have to come watch Disney movies with me

    Her: AND you have to cuddle, cause that's the best way to watch a disney movie

    Me: I don't know, I'd rather cuddle and watch disney movies with a cleavageless good girl

    Her: no you wouldn't stop lying

    Me: We can do that next time possibly. If you become a kathlic priestess. *oh we love Jesus Christ, oh we love Jesus christ*

    Her: what happens at the camp out stays at the camp out

    Her: I AM A JEWISH FREAK *clap* I AM A JEWISH FREAK *clap* *random uncomplicated hand stuff* and you know the rest

    Me: Next time we see each other, we can cuddle and watch disney movies if you become a catholic priest ok?

    Her: fine, but.... i will only be a catholic priest to piss off all the Christians
    and jesus...

    Her: lol this is what i just said to some bitch who was like trying to make everyone christian "oh dear lord satan, please protect me from jesus christ, slenderman, and the christians..... actually just the christians, i can deal with jesus and slenderman but not those dam christians...amen"

    Her: she just glared at me and then walked away XD

    Me: You're such a naughty girl. I gotta go. Dont forget about our disney date

    Her: lol i know, and i won't, byeeee

    ---------------------------------

    Sorry for the long read, just had to get the full convo in there. I was wearing really nice clothing and felt really confident. I was in a good state. *Not my normal state*
    So my questions are:
    How can I always be fun, challenging and playful like that
    and
    How can I keep her attracted to me like she was in the conversation?

    Thanks, Eddie

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Also, Artandale.
    What is breaking rapport and how do I emotionally connect with her?

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    You seem to be doing fine via text game which includes breaking rapport aka playful teasing. You got her trying to qualify herself to you. Stop caring what she thinks and keep gaming because you want to. Never game because you want their attention--you'll lose focus on what its like to be yourself if so. Game because you want to have fun for yourself. You're not gaming for her, you're gaming for yourself. Stop putting yourself down and hold your frame of intent.

    To emotionally connect you need to be able to comfort her emotionally from her own insecurities. Although your text game didnt display that you still have her interest. Building rapport is important for gaining their trust. Breaking rapport is for being able to show that you can escalate and that you arent to be taken lightly.

    Some important things to note is that you should stop trying to text to just make banter. Text to eventually build up comfort so she will want to meet you in person so you can isolate, build and break rapport. You're doing good in holding her interest but she cuts you off at the end because it was just banter. It doesnt mean she doesnt like you--it means she wants to take a break from conversing because its pointless. It doesnt mean you cant contact her. But when you have a purpose to talk more things can be said and done and you both know you're intending to bridge that gap. You mentioned the date a couple of times but never locked down the date's day. Focus and lock it down. Get her to commit so you can escalate or else she will friend zone you because you havent made the move.

    Your idea of maintaining attraction is unachievable because you don't know when to push and pull so she will initiate. When its going good consider breaking from the conversation with a long pause via text for hours. This will make her rethink what she did. This will build tension. When you lock in a date and time be the first to make an exit from the conversation. You've made your point--now its time to move on to bigger fish to fry. People urn for other people's attention because they arent a priority. For you to exit first means you have bigger priorities than her. She will subconsciously know this and if she's attracted she'll wish to be a bigger priority in your life. Push when she's bored. Pull when she's interested. You did many things in your text game in regards to this but you didnt lead. You didnt call the shots--you just made banter. Now go back and LEAD!!!
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    She lives a 6 hour drive away from me. So there's no *date* or anything we can get to. I'm not entirely sure how this is going to work, but I'm mainly practicing. I mean, who doesn't want to pull a chick with DDs

    In real life, I'm not quite as ballsy and upfront and challenging/playful.
    Is there any way to make that my default state?

    Thanks, Eddie

    Also, would it be alright with you *artandale* if I could message you through email? Thanks,
    Eddie

    *weg0ldwing@gmail.co m*

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Lol you could just send me a private message through the forum
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Can only get girls attracted for a short while...

    Quote Originally Posted by artandale View Post
    To emotionally connect you need to be able to comfort her emotionally from her own insecurities. Although your text game didnt display that you still have her interest. Building rapport is important for gaining their trust.
    Mind explaining how to transition from bantering into comforting her in his example?

    The teasing and bantering is called breaking rapport and you want to do that from time to time, right?


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