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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Just go with the flow do push-pull so she is chasing and touching you. The better your congruence is the more she will validate you. Don't be too obvious and don't over pursue cuz then she can't return the favor. Give her room to get at you too.
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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Quote Originally Posted by JackSarge View Post
    Wtf, no idea what you are trying to say mate. My game is going platinum. I have never been this good with women. All I am saying and what I'll be saying for a while..is this. I got game. I understand you are new here and seen quite a but of frustration coming from the posts sounds like you are down on your luck but I don't lie. I like to tell stories how I perceive things but it is all true. I get rejected enough to keep me humble.

    Not to mention I just had a falling out with the bartender who always gets me in the Club for free so I have been dealing with a lot of heartbreak but been trying to move on like the PUA's told me even though it seemed impossible. So just to remind you I am very hurt right now but trying to battle with that.
    I think you clearly took this the wrong way. Im not down on my luck either- so I'm not sure if this was an attempt to DHV yourself or whatever it is thats done, haha. TBH I am thrilled- whatever failures I have so far are amazing success to me. That I can even ask a girl out is great. I'm so happy to be at this point. My negative comments on myself are merely an attempt to learn- if I humblebrag away what will I learn here? But in reality I am happy as a clam. Believe you me. A year ago I was severely depressed and thought the world hated me that I was worthless and had no value. This was a guy whom women that are beautiful I mean 7,8,9s have approached me repeatedly only to be turned off by my insecurities. On top of that I was going to be a doctor- and I was still severely depressed. So I am so happy its amazing.

    No, its just that the way you write these posts are so stream of consciousness and so vivid that its like straight out of a Hunter Thompson novel. Its not that I don't believe you- its just your rhetorical flair. Ist a matter of style you use and not a question of the substance. Over the internet its hard to discern the intent as a result.

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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Quote Originally Posted by JackSarge View Post
    Just go with the flow do push-pull so she is chasing and touching you. The better your congruence is the more she will validate you. Don't be too obvious and don't over pursue cuz then she can't return the favor. Give her room to get at you too.
    This is more along the lines of what everyone else writes- the style I mean. Its easier for me to follow and understand. Maybe I'm just stupid.

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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Quote Originally Posted by jayk238 View Post
    I think you clearly took this the wrong way. Im not down on my luck either- so I'm not sure if this was an attempt to DHV yourself or whatever it is thats done, haha. TBH I am thrilled- whatever failures I have so far are amazing success to me. That I can even ask a girl out is great. I'm so happy to be at this point. My negative comments on myself are merely an attempt to learn- if I humblebrag away what will I learn here? But in reality I am happy as a clam. Believe you me. A year ago I was severely depressed and thought the world hated me that I was worthless and had no value. This was a guy whom women that are beautiful I mean 7,8,9s have approached me repeatedly only to be turned off by my insecurities. On top of that I was going to be a doctor- and I was still severely depressed. So I am so happy its amazing.

    No, its just that the way you write these posts are so stream of consciousness and so vivid that its like straight out of a Hunter Thompson novel. Its not that I don't believe you- its just your rhetorical flair. Ist a matter of style you use and not a question of the substance. Over the internet its hard to discern the intent as a result.
    Right back at you killer Funny thing is I have a very similar story. Rhetorical flair? LOL OMG man just like to tell a good story is all. I have always been stuck in my own drama of sorts.

    Not to mention my game is helping me embark on more adventures. I know I have a lot of crazy stories but wouldn't you believe not so long ago in a distant land I asked my boss "Will you be my GF?" while in her car. The problem was she went out to eat with me, let me sleep over at her house, flirted with me and flashed me. The problem was I never realized she kinda already wanted to be my GF but because I got weird things got weird.

    I used to work at this restaurant that she always came to to follow me and I saw her there years later still hoping she would find me. I lost track of her but the thing of it is I am not afraid anymore to claim ownership of a broad. It was so funny today I was telling this new chick "I want to hang out with you, go to lunch with you but you changed your schedule so it's never happening " She rewarded my honesty and said the neatest thing "Well you had all this time..." Showing a automatic yes the concept of me and her dating. Sadly I think I will be dating two HB9's now.

    Not to worry but I learned the hard way to NEVER let them find out about each other as this has been a huge roadblock. So since they don't know each other it will be easy! Glad things are finally looking up.
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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Rhetorical flair! haha nice. I have been known to do the same thing so I can totally follow what JackSarge is saying!

    The go with the flow and push/pull is the best advice and style of writing I can get from JackSarge.

    This is all so funny because I too am literally killing it with the ladies as to date. In the last 5 months I have meet close to 60 70 girls in their early 20s and the more I meet the more my reputation as a ladies man procedes me. Yet I am a complete gentleman, I don't have to try they come to me. In fact it has always been that way. My job has just opened up the flood gates.

    My problem is when I see what I want. I narrow focus in. In fact that is probably most guys problems. This HB9 is a farking unicorn, and in fact she is a HB10 total package. I can see she does not want to be just one of my many gfs and I don't want that either. Things are progressing if slower than my liking, but that is the only way with this type of woman. She is a catch. I just need to go with the flow as JackSarge says and keep the tension high, which we have both done through push/pull.

    If I just do my thing like I have, my rep spreads itself and does the work for me. I just want this girl she knows it, and is shit testing the shit out of me. I like the game, but I am also very direct which has worked in my favor also.

    Go with the flow is the only option. Even though the creeping pace is killing me! Aloof with an unexpected gesture, turn of phrase etc..keeps em guessing. If I keep showing my heart to her I lose, which sucks because that is what I want to do. They all want excitment and the unexpected. I just got to keep switching up my game. Which I need to have fun with instead of treating it as work. Her mentioning the other guy is an obvious shit test, I just panicked because I want her to be mine.

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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Mythocal Unicorns huh? Man I hate my life. Just went to a restaurant and some HB9 was scoping me hard with Anime Eyes. OMG the way she looked at me was outta this world and she had a Grade A rack. I would have been ALL OVER THAT!

    Sad thing is she was in a group set with her Dad and Uncle and I don't work to tell with other males. Again I said I go for the "Low Hanging Fruit" to keep my closing rate on a roll.

    Either way you look at it I had a small opening but again this was in no way shape or form "Low Hanging Fruit" but would have been a serious upset if it went sour cuz I had no isolation.

    Clearly women act differently in isolation. Sadly I didn't open to protect my record. I don't know if I would have called her anyway. But starting to love the Mythical Unicorns running around. HB9's are so much easier to find than HB10's those are like Star Goddess in other galaxies compared to how many times I have found them.

    Also girls can be real Ice Queens if you don't demonstrate social perception. It probably would have went south so better to run away to live and fight another day...
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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    I realize now the way to proper social perception. I could have gotten at her but it's good I didn't open the way I was intending since men are known to be protective.

    I would have jumped the gun and ran after her springing the awkwardness from the males her sensing my lack of respect and social graces.

    I could have pulled it off but it's too late. The best way to win people is through charm. The group broke off so I could have approached the males asked about the relationship correlation and won the males by asking if it was okay if I talk to her. THEN approached the female, that would have totally worked but in my raw inexperience I would have rushed after her and scared her away and pissed of the males.

    I think I know how to do groups now! Approach the males and take care of that first. A learning lesson but a sad one...she is gone forever!!!
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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    Ok this is the current situation. I worked with the HB9 last night, played it cool light flirting what not it seemed to go fine. Today I thought I test the waters so I texted her this is how it went.

    ME: Hello how is it going? I have a question for you! 3:23

    Her: Ya? 3:26

    So she has an user name on a social media site with just letters. I know the first three are her intials, not sure what the last three mean. And I don't know her middle name.

    ME: I was curious as to what 123456 stands for? I am going to guess (her first name), some random name for the middle intial, and her last name. Than the last three letter are nyd. So I say (O") No You Didn't and placed a diva finger. 3:29

    Her: Haha and she gives her middle name. 3:30

    Me: (middle name) nice! is that hawaiin? 3:32

    No response

    Me: Ok so maybe a family name? What about the nyd? Her name and than Not (in) Your Dreams! 3:37

    Her: "my last name is (.......) which nyd fits into it. I have to go I'm at my boyfriends house lol bye. 3:47

    Me: Bye than a emojicon with a tear. 3:48

    It shows when she reads text and it was 3 minutes later that she read my last one.

    So I was concerned yesterday morning when she drop a hint at being at a guys house. At the time she did not say boyfriend. I have been bringing it on strong with her lately trying to let her know I am coming after her. She dropped another hint that I am with a lot of girls. After her comment of her guy friend.

    I was out with three girls last night and they said I had a bad profile picture so they said I should take a picture with them and make it my profile picture. I did. So on pure assumtion I am thinking this HB9 saw my profile picture and she is firing back at me! With this boyfriend response.

    Why would she be texting me while at her bfs? Why would she say she is at her bfs, but still laugh at my ineundo about "not in your dreams"?
    And than why would she immediatly read my response to her claim of a boyfriend.

    IDK any opinions or advice?

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    Default Re: younger co-worker need help mixed signals

    I think after reading Mark Manson- women like to flirt. its part of their deal. You have to just move with it. If you fall into the trap of liking a girl wtih a bf you are going to just make it worse.

    its best to just move on. I wouldnt worry myself over her.

    She's not interested bro. In the event that she is - dont you think there are more options for a handsome great guy like you that require more effort?

    Why waste your time with her?

    What if she's just not that into you?

    I dunno. I hate it too- when a girl has a bf its like why'd you waste my time. I'm trying to learn of ways to figure this out asap.


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