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Thread: How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

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    Default How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

    When I meet a girl - because I dont know shes interested I'm very confident and have no AA. But once she starts showing interest- I have severe AA, turning things for the worse- because my body language fails me or Im so overwhelmed by my physiology- rapid heart rate etc, I cant maintain a conversation.

    I want to know how to change this. CBT helps me in daily life and interactions- which in a way a first appraoch or cold approach to a gil is a form of daily interaction. Once it moves to oh she likes me or shows me signs she does- I turn into an AFC.

    I know that sounds ironic but something needs to be done. any suggestions?

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    Default Re: How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

    Her affection should boost you even more, nonetheless. She's basically opening a window for you.

    But I'm sure you know these... You just need a tweak to move on to the next phase without fear.

    I can't exactly give a direct fix for this because I don't know you personally. Only solid advice I can give, is that once she starts showing interest, forget about your approach, forget about any technique you've planned to apply.

    She just let you in. You're in pro. Game is on. Focus and keep escalating from that point on.

    In my opinion, it really isn't about how she feels initially, it's about how she makes you feel. If her interest is appealing to you, move forward. If you feel intimidated by her affection, try another girl, maybe she'll have a "lighter" attitude which might make you feel better.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

    Hmm interesting,

    That last part is intriguing because I think I get overanxious because I'm still in that surprised AFC state- like omg this girl showed me interest oh shit what do i do- except a lot more girls are doing this so I really need to get over that.

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    Default Re: How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

    Ask yourself why you are feeling that way and if it makes rational sense? You should feel good for positive feedback and use that excitement to propel yourself forward.
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    Default Re: How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

    I know that feeling. I think it occurs because were aren't yet used to it. Or never noticed it. I now try to first consciously remind me that especially now I have to put game to action even more. Not trying hard, but focus on it. Even it goes against all urges, we have to not be needy or spam their phones.

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    Default Re: How to change mentality when girl shows interest vs neutral?

    I think it's all about your perspective and how you look at this situation. You're clearly coming from a scarcity mentality rather than from a place of abundance. It seems that you might be afraid she'll find out you're not as attractive/confident/witty, etc. as she makes you out to be. Just be free from all outcome and enjoy the present moment you're spending with her.

    Like everyone else has been saying, you should be glad that she is showing interest because that is half the battle. Remember all the good qualities you have and everything you've accomplished in your life and use that to boost your confidence and eliminate AA.


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