I usually meet guys at various locations and get along with them. For example, at the gym I go to I met a guy in his late 20s whose an alhpa male and very confident in himself. He never puts me down and we always get along fine. In fact we have a positive attitude with each other...which I think is great. Honestly when I first saw him I thought he'd be a douche because of my pre-existing pre CBT attitudes towards tall alpha males. But because of my own confidence (and my resulting projection of it) I approached him and we get along really well. This was never the case before. I would always have difficulty maintaining conversations with others and let my insecurities get to me.
On the other hand hteres another guy who I got along well with. He's a good looking guy, short like me who works there but is really young-19 years. He has a tendency to make underhand comments like oh girls only talk to you cuz you're a med student....drawing attention to the idea that thats only how I get girls....I always laugh it off and dismiss it. I usually don't bring up chics but when he does we just shoot the shit about it.
How do I deal with these types of people. Do I just play it off like its nothing? or do I make a comeback? What does someone with true confidence do? I feel like I can go in any number of directions. A part of me wants to make fun of him but really he's just a 19 year old kid whose insecurities come out more than anything when he says stuff like this. I dismissed it at the time...
but as I use this forum I realize I can get information from others without having to learn the hard way. What to do in these situations thats ideal- ie doesnt get to you, project confidence etc.
I have a really easy time getting along with almost anyone and my humor makes a funny guy. But when I get tested- thats when the cracks start to show.
When my friends rib me I always rib back. But when my insecurities are hit thats when its a challenge. Even though I dont feel insecure today- I feel that my old habits or behaviors due to my insecurities creep up.
Im just curious as to how to behave in these situations as a new me.