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    Default gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Is it appropriate to game at the gym? There is an hb9 there- she's actually taller than me, all the guys think she's hot.

    I was the only one who said Hi to her she gave me an awkward wave and said hi. I basically made a point to smile at her once (slight awkwardness) but the rest of the time if we made eye contact Id look at her until she looked away. I only did it a few times and they all happened naturally- ie i wasnt staring at her.

    One guy told me she acts like a bitch and doesnt talk. She's very very attractive and I'm wondering whats the best way to go about it.

    I think i was so overwhelmed by her beauty that I actually failed to initiate conversation with her. Which was unfortunate. I saw that she had switched treadmills and didnt ask about it - which would have been an easy natural way to start a convo.

    if i see her again should I do something like that and introduce myself or should I let it go. She's already seen me talk to others and introduce myself so its obvious I do this to everyone (I do, its just part of my new me).

    I dont have any attachment to her- I just want to know what to do or should I let this go since she's a regular at the gym? What do you guys do.

    im not looking for openers- just advice on whats appropriate in terms of approaching women at the gym.

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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    I game the same way, everywhere, all the time.
    I don't change my approach or style for daytime /night time/ stores / restaurants, etc.

    Anyway, skip the "conversation".. . Conversations build rapport.
    Rapport = "friends" if you fail to build attraction.

    You need to be different than every other dude who gawks at her & tries to strike up a conversation about her workouts.

    Make fun, flirty, random comments.

    Ask her something more original.
    Like "Hey spunky pants, have you ever gone sky diving or at least thought about it?"

    Or "Hey nerd ball, do you like roller coasters? I'm picking up an adventurous vibe from you..."

    ANYTHING other than "gym talk".


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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    I have this tendency where if I overthink it like- what to say next I will mess it up. I've had a lot of success with just saying Hi whats your name and looking at them in the eye. By success I mean them showing me interest/attraction/IOI or whatever.


    is that game? obviously not. but its the stage I am at. Understand that a year ago I would have been looking down the whole time without even making eye contact.

    Is this ok to do so in the gym? My plan is if I see her, I want to say- this is the second time I've run into you- smile, Hi - whats your name shake hands etc.

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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Don't be too formal with it.

    You want to spark attraction by getting an emotional reaction out of her... NOT make a new business acquaintance.


    You MUST express confidence & some degree of boldness. REALLY HOT girls are attracted to confident guys who aren't intimidated by them.

    With the "handshake" scenario, you run the risk of coming off as sheepish & timid... or like "just another guy"...


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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    No I swear, my handshakes have worked wonders for me. I'm looking them in the eye the whole time, I'm holding on to their hand as I talk to them as I ask their name. Then, after they ask me mine- and Im holding on to it until they do- then I slowly let go making sure my fingers are lingering over their entire hand as she lets go and I give a mischievous smile.

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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Honestly Im just simply stunned at the number of women I've approached. Its amazing. Im so happy. I dont even care that I have only managed to get physical with one girl. This is more success in terms of approaching women then I have had in my entire life.

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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Approaching IS half the battle, so ANYTHING is better than just sitting there, wishing you could muster up the courage to talk to her, so that's good...

    But remember, FUN is the ultimate attraction switch. And the sooner you project a fun vibe, the quicker you can progress to more fun activities & interactions.

    I'm impatient, so I cut straight to the point & make my intentions known right from the start.
    I don't fiddle-faddle around trying to mask the fact that I'm interested & flirting with her.

    Girls crave fun & excitement... so the faster you can separate yourself from every other schmuck, the less work you have to do.


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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Maybe, but reading models by mark manson says that you should do one thing at a time. If I put too much into this by trying to be fun-when just approaching is a big deal then Ill be overwhelmed. But if I train myself- it will only get better. i want to get to the point where interacting w women is second nature and I'm just saying hi to them and hanging out with them.

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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Great attitude to have!

    If you're willing to put in the time & effort, and learn from every interaction (good or bad) you'll catch on quickly.


    Don't be afraid to experiment & leave your "approach comfort zone" though.

    Like I said, I want fast results when I do something. So I streamline everything for efficiency.

    I personally thought Mystery Method had waaaaay too many steps & rules. I didn't have the patience level to follow all the processes.

    So I started cutting out the crap & being totally direct, fun & flirty. But I had to work at it a bit in order to make it a natural part of my personality, and to be as bold as I am now.

    But again, learn from ALL your interactions & you'll make improvements.


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    Default Re: gaming at the gym- is it ok?

    Yeah I go through so many approahces with women that failure means nothing. Actually- Its more worrying to look foolish in front of guys because they dont understand this and i can expect the ribbing. its not that i care about the ribbing today- it will only remind me of the bullying i received before and my weakness. BUT- thats not important, just wanted to point out how little im concerned with not being succesful with women past approaching- that alone is a big deal for me.


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