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    Default Met a girl with boyfriend. How to respond? why do they do this?

    Met a girl today (another one at the library) she was all eyes on me, went to her talked etc etc. She still eyed me when I went back to study so later I came over again and said I have to go but here's my number let me have yours. she gave it to me and i left. i texted her hi how are you and she responds IM great yourself? I said I enjoyed talking to her today and want to meet her.

    she said unfortunately i wont be, im going to my boyfriend's family reunion.

    I said haha im not the jealous type we can still make friends.

    What to do to avoid these situations? IE get it out of her asap that she has a bf and not have to worry about getting her number. should i have tried to make plans with her so I could meet up with her and if she says no then move on?

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    Default Re: Met a girl with boyfriend. How to respond? why do they do this?

    First, she's interested in you. She wouldn't have gave you her number if she wasn't.

    Second, you probably went for the meetup too fast. You should have built a little bit more attraction and comfort before suggesting a meetup.

    As for getting it out of a girl fast that she has a bf, that shouldn't be your aim. Many HB's will default to the bf card at some point if they feel "threatened." Plow through. If they actually have a bf but are still communicating with you, then they're interested and you don't really need to worry about the bf.

    A girl who can't be cracked is one who throws up the bf card right from the beginning and keeps coming back to it. If that's the case, it will be very difficult.
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    Default Re: Met a girl with boyfriend. How to respond? why do they do this?

    well I dunno. I saw her to, she was dressed better than last time and like the other girl i spoke to she was someone i saw a previous day. I mean her interest could just be for attention. We only spoke about a few things in person and when I went back to get her number I wrote it down and had her write hers- she could have said she had a bf then but maybe she was too afraid?

    when she gave it to me she had a really nervous look- which i may have misinterpreted as shyness instead of just nervous about giving her number when she has a bf.

    What i mean to ask is- should I have tried to talk to her first and get to know her more than just what she does and what she studies?

    I got her number because of all the eye contact and because mark manson says just go for it. I'm not hurt or anything but wondering if I made the mistake of getting the number too early.

    Also- my friends hate doing these things because they feel like it gives women power- like ohhh hes after me look at him, which is why they never do this.

    Im wondering is this true and an issue or should I keep going ahead with this and getting numbers.

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    Default Re: Met a girl with boyfriend. How to respond? why do they do this?

    Have a couple more light and playful texts before you set up a day 2. The way you worded your text sounded like you wanted to meet that day. Find out what her schedule is like and plan a day 2 where both of you are free.
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    Default Re: Met a girl with boyfriend. How to respond? why do they do this?

    Dont be pushy. Let her make up her mind. Play the game and have fun. Stop over thinking things.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Met a girl with boyfriend. How to respond? why do they do this?

    Numbers are basically useless on their own. The further you are through the seduction when you get the number, the more likely the number is to pan out.

    The quality of numbers skyrockets exponentially post-makeout in comparison to pre-makeout. You should push all your interactions as far as possible.
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