Re: A discrepancy between pickup theory and classic communication theory
I always understood it as that we must EXPECT to do 90% of the talking. If a woman is more than willing to invest in the conversation after you open then by all means let her talk without interruption and respond accordingly. However, letting her go on and on is also not a good idea. Eventually she'll touch on depressive topics like her ex or "will I ever find love" or whatever and if you let her go down that path she'll put herself in a bad mood and attribute it to you.
I think both theories still go hand and hand and yes people do like to talk about themselves. But you still have to learn to steer things where you want rather than just be her crying pillow for her to unload on.
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