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Thread: How much cocky is too cocky?

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    Default How much cocky is too cocky?

    I've recently learned about the pickup community and I'm intrigued by the idea of "cocky funny". I've been told that I'm too cocky, so I've been trying to become more modest.

    I have always been cocky, and my cockiness often accidentally made the people around me feel inferior. Conversations like this happened a lot:
    Girl: "Wow, you finished the homework question? I have no idea how to do it."
    Me: "Really? How long did you spend on it?"
    Girl: "The entire night!"
    Me: "Wow, that long? I did it at lunch, it was easy."

    Before I learned about pickup, I've tried to become more modest, which lead to awkward conversations:
    Me: "That test was so easy."
    Girl: "Really? I probably failed it, you're so smart."
    Me: "No, not really."
    *silence*

    Ever since I learned about "cocky funny", I've tried bringing back my old cocky attitude. However, I'm worried I might offend others. Therefore, I want to understand what PUAs mean by "cocky funny."

    Do you say cocky things in a jokingly way? (e.g. "I'm way sexier than Brad Pitt.")
    Or do you actually say cocky things that make you seem superior, followed by a joke? (e.g. "Even I've written a porn site better than this, but more porn is always good!")

    In other words, how much "cocky" is "too cocky"?

    P.S. I know my conversations are nerdy, can't help it.

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    Default Re: How much cocky is too cocky?

    As long as you have the correct frame to back it up, there's no such thing as too much.

    You can even exaggerate it and it'll still end up probably even funnier.

    Remember it's all about your frame

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    Default Re: How much cocky is too cocky?

    honest to god this shit doesnt matter dude.

    Literally all you have to do is say hi and shake a hand and look them in the eye and build attraction. Being direct is the money maker- you can either get a girl or you wont. The trick is to do it with a lot of people.

    The questions I used to ask were like yours- what to say etc. But really its just - approaching. Approach as many women as you can.

    Seriously- if you see a girl she eyes you- say hi whats the time, ask her where shes going, introduce yourself shake her hand, make sure you maintain 100% eye contact the ENTIRE time. Thats all it takes.

    don't waste your time on what to say.

    Also- when you say something ask yourself why you really want to. If its to impress then dont. if its because you feel like it then do so.

    If you say something that might be sexual or too bold- ie i think youre really hot in those pants or something then add humor to it. Like- I think you're really hot in those pants- you must be really fishing for compliments...sorry I dont do that with a confident delivery and a smile so she knows your kidding (but she'll still think oh he thinks i look hot).

    Its impossible to know what to say without knowing why. Cocky and funny isnt just some magic that works all the time. Its there for a reason.

    cocky is to show confidence- so your delivery and eye contact trump this. They are say 90% of everything. 10% is what you say. funny is importnat because if you make sexual comments you dont want to appear clueless about societal mores. Society says making such comments is inappropriate and it can make women feel devalued into sexual objects. So humor is a tactful way to admit that you are in the know AND that you actually dont see her as a pure sex object- but want to create tension with her instead. It gets her heart racing AND makes her feel comfortable around you like- ok he can say bold things other wont and still make it seem appropriate.

    Thats what youre trying to do. Its not, ok cocky statement+humor= poon.

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    Default Re: How much cocky is too cocky?

    Oh and you are definitely like I was- dont be insecure.

    Who cares if they are nerdy.

    here:

    I love technology. I think that within 100 years the singularity will be real and robots will be everywhere. I am looking forward to this. I could be wrong, but this is an important subject to me.

    Big deal. So its nerdy. If you are confident in yourself no need to qualify yourself to anyone. You are so confident you dont give a shit.

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    Default Re: How much cocky is too cocky?

    You can be as cocky as you want as long as you are not mean, offensive or overly arrogant and so long as you back it up with other sides of yourself showing compassion or care. Cocky funny is really just being a bit cheeky - so it should be witty. Saying you finished your homework quick is in some ways simply DHV and you receive a qualification for it 'your smart' whereas being cocky funny/cheeky might be 'it took you all night to do your homework?? Next time don't day dream about me so much okay?! '

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    Default Re: How much cocky is too cocky?

    Just remember that a little bit of cocky goes a LONG way.
    Don't over-do it.

    Too much cocky comes across as arrogant/domineering.

    You have to learn to calibrate & balance it.

    CONFIDENCE more than cocky, but like whitedragon said, cheeky humor/cockiness works well.


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