Re: I always fail on facing resistance - too easily influenced and "nice"
I am entering a similar struggle of my own lately. My conclusion is this, if you want to win you gotta keep playing. If you cash in all your chips then you lose everytime.
For instance I have a date this this chick on Friday. I have reminded her over and over so she knows when and where. Granted I could text her the day before but I won't. I could tag her on FB at said event but I won't. I could even text her before but nah don't even know if I am gonna do that. Cuz a rejection will kill my day and going in for a tattoo that's not a good way to start out. So I am afraid she will have to initiate for me to get her interest level up. Her being 50/50 I don't have much of a shot anyway. Better to invite her to something where there is an opportunity for sex to happen like a concert.
Afraid I will just not call or text or write. I am just putting too much effort into it. Granted every girl is different so your situation I would say you are putting too much stock into it. The one thing I have learned about women is they flake and bail out at the last minute constantly. I have always wanted to text ditch my date the day of to see what they do. Now is my chance to try that out. The ball is in her court so as I push her away maybe she will respond to that.,
In the end women are women are world class players at making excuses to why they can't come. So here is me not giving a fark. She can get at me, screw it. Taking the lead is good but what we all need to learn is to back off a little to test her interest level and she if she swings back into your court. If she doesn't then no harm no foul. But usually when a serious date is involved they come up with the wildest and harshest rejections. I don't have time for that now. Maybe on a concert date I'll confirm the date two hours before but not this thing, this is my thing. She can wait.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.