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Thread: Maintaining conversation

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    Default Maintaining conversation

    Hello and thanks in advance for helping out to those that do.

    I'm not a very 'quick thinker'. I find it hard to rattle things of interest off in a conversation with a girl or anyone for that matter (this mostly depends on who im talking to however, if the conversation partner is high-engery and less passive i find it easy)

    So my question is: how do you maintain a good, snappy & interesting conversation if the other person is passive? Any techniques?

    Also a slight sticking point for me is moving from the opener to the DHV stage... So my other question is: any tips on that? Anyone know any good opener/DHV combos that work nicely together? Can anyone link me to a good thread about any of the above also?

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    Default Re: Maintaining conversation

    Hey man,

    The best way to keep an interesting conversation going is to be an interesting guy. When you have a lot of intrests, when you read up on a lot of things you will find yourself talking about them. You won't need "queus" (don't know if it's written that way) the conversation will just naturally flow man.

    As for the combos yeah man sure, but know this you can't keep relying on canned shit all your life.
    PUA: Do you work at (some high end female store) ?
    Her: No
    PUA: You looked like a girl I saw that worked there. I was there a couple of days ago picking out a gift for my cousin. It was so expensive, but my couin is worth it. Still, I thought you could get me a sale or something... Come to think of it, I'm not quite happy yet with the present I picked out. I was thincking something like that (necklace, purse,..) of yours, but it seems like every girl has on like. I literaly saw two girls wearing it tonight.

    Always give them a bit of wiggle room to talk. I wouldn't try to spark up a conversation more than a couple of times. Why put in more for a girl you don't know?
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    Default Re: Maintaining conversation

    Get them talking about themselves. Show some genuine interest and curiosity about them. Everybody's favorite topic is themselves so if you are a good listener and ask the right qualifying questions (i.e. open eneded and emotional) you will be able to have them talk your ear off you can just reward them for their investment with kino.
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    Default Re: Maintaining conversation

    Quote Originally Posted by WillEdward View Post
    Get them talking about themselves. Show some genuine interest and curiosity about them. Everybody's favorite topic is themselves so if you are a good listener and ask the right qualifying questions (i.e. open eneded and emotional) you will be able to have them talk your ear off you can just reward them for their investment with kino.
    Yes but can he do that to a hot girl in a bar if he hasn't built attraction yet?
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    Default Re: Maintaining conversation

    In the beginning stages of meeting a girl you don't need "conversations". That builds rapport. NOT attraction.

    When you focus on having an overall fun "interaction" instead, the girl will generally become quite chatty & you'll have ZERO trouble with the "chit-chat" portion.

    Conversations will come naturally once you establish attraction.
    Because, when a girl is attracted to you, she'll open up & do most of the talking... and all you have to do is listen & chime in appropriately.


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    Default Re: Maintaining conversation

    I'm not a very 'quick thinker'. I find it hard to rattle things of interest off in a conversation with a girl or anyone for that matter (this mostly depends on who im talking to however, if the conversation partner is high-engery and less passive i find it easy)

    So my question is: how do you maintain a good, snappy & interesting conversation if the other person is passive? Any techniques?

    Also a slight sticking point for me is moving from the opener to the dhv stage... So my other question is: any tips on that? Anyone know any good opener/DHV combos that work nicely together? Can anyone link me to a good thread about any of the above also?
    an easy trick to making more interesting conversation is to have a few general topics/jokes in mind before even opening any convo's.

    even though it may feel a bit rehearsed talking to a dozen people about the same things, it is a good way to build the social confidence needed to carry a naturally interesting convo.

    and yes, being a truly interesting person helps a lot. if you aren't getting out and doing stuff all the time, get off you're computer and find some activities in your area. even if they sound completely dumb try some of them just to be able to say you did.

    also you can never have enough stories about things you've done with your friends. if you don't have friends go make some.

    btw: most of the most interesting stories I hear are usually packed full of b.s. there's nothing wrong with making up some believable stories just to have something interesting to say.

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    Default Re: Maintaining conversation

    Apologies for late reply on this - thanks for the advice guys. Luckily i do lead a rather interesting life. I just need to input that into my conversations


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