What are the ground rules?
No rules right? I know seems like the most obvious answer but it's not. A hot bartender I was friends with for a year who got me in free and gave me free drinks blocked me (very uncommon) when I tried to use her to get at the Cocktail Waitress who I had a falling out with after it went south and they both got rid of me. I know I just need to talk to the hot bartender and finally N-close her (yes I FB'd closed her so never got rejected for a N-close so I think I can still be friends with her but the Cocktail Waitress I have no chance in hell with) So there are definitely boundaries. I never should have done that. But right after I did? Well you tell me.
I go out and Pick Up at a set of pick up locations. A girl I picked up got her number and invited her out to a dive bar for a drink. We ended up back at her house hanging out for like 2 days strait. It was great! But then I started to meet her friends and some of her friends were hot. So I thought...screw oneitis. Added some of them on FB and they added me. This situation is delicate so I haven't said anything to her friends because they saw us getting really close.
So I figure well we're dating then. So since I am technically dating her would dating her friends be an option at the same time? I feel like the answer is no but I feel like if I wait for things to fizzle out with me and her my value will go way down and I will be using them as a rebound which will be obvious. But I also feel like if I hit them up they will rat me out to her and lose them all like what happened with the Bartender.
So again this situation is very delicate. How can I keep dating this chick and date her friend without losing value? Don't tell me to make a choice because me and my new friend have a lot planned and I am going for her since she is the best one right now. But it's weird her friends have their numbers listed on FB so I never seen girls do that and wonder if this is some new trick her friends are playing on me. I mean the other girl who has her number listed on FB I added seemed like she was very jealous and hated life when she saw me with her friend but I was with her so obviously I am with her right now.
But technically we are not "together" right? I mean we just met and she never asked me to be exclusive with her but she did sorta ask something relationship related "Do you want it?" talking about a relationship and I said yes so I figure she might think she is my girlfriend. I don't know it's confusing but I know not to be blunt about things like this since it so often backfires. Obviously I can't ask my new girlfriend about it without lowering my value since she has to ask and it has to be her idea to question what we are. Well then would it be wrong to hit on her friends? I mean we are just dating so I am still technically single. It's just a confusing spot to have all these girls everywhere coming up everywhere and have this girl who we are kinda sorta together which means I need some advice about how to proceed. I like her but I know nothing lasts forever so I want to weigh my options and make the best route to success.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.