Re: How do I reduce flakes?
Yes but I only have time for a quick reply. Basically when it comes to the world we live in, we live in an ever changing world.
Originally Posted by wildstorms
Slowly I have gotten better at the texting/phone game. A few things that helped me.
Last year 30 phone numbers=1 Date
This year 12 phone numbers=6 Dates
The difference is I didn't realize the effectiveness of getting validation by dating. So I throw in my "hook" right into my intro sometimes. "Hey this is Cap Jack Sarge, I met you here let's hang out sometime or do XYZ." That single text has carried me to today 1 month later and me and her are still dating. I have to go out less because my conversion rate has gotten way better.
She is pretty much my GF so I really don't need to go out at all and waste money looking for girls unless it is purely for myself. But it used to be that I never figured out why I got ignored until I started running this formula of Dating + Hookup methods.
Lastly we live in an ever changing world so I am slowly moving away from calling a girl unless she doesn't respond to my text a couple times then I will try calling her just to confirm it is a valid number. Other than that I have yet to call my current GF and treating it as a last resort since we talk on FB and through text. It takes out a lot of the nerves of calling a girl for sure and been able to secure dates without even calling her but she called me.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.