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    Default I had a crazy night

    So I was with this girl and we were dancing and shit. Suddenly something I can't say right here triggered her emotional state so we decided to get out.

    We sat on the stairs and she starts opening up, I mean really open up about her childhood. And it was pretty farkED UP. I can't stress this enough farkED UP, she clearly has some serious issues. This girl was so farking broken that i just sat there and listened.

    I'm super closed out that I never talk personal shit to anybody but last night I forgot completely about it. I lost my frame. (ugh!)

    I felt pretty good last night but I just feel bad that I let myself be sucked in into the friendzone. I think she might have a boyfriend as well.

    I'm pissed that didn't make a move last night. Seriously, DAMSEL IN DISTRESS it always gets me.

    i want to know how should I handle these type of situations if it ever occurs again. how do i stay in frame? how do i keep my head on the game?

    I want a way out of this but I also want to just see where things go from here.

    Any advice, suggestions, violent reactions are welcome and encouraged

    Thanks

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    Default Re: I had a crazy night

    Quote Originally Posted by CapPickup View Post
    So I was with this girl and we were dancing and shit. Suddenly something I can't say right here triggered her emotional state so we decided to get out.

    We sat on the stairs and she starts opening up, I mean really open up about her childhood. And it was pretty farkED UP. I can't stress this enough farkED UP, she clearly has some serious issues. This girl was so farking broken that i just sat there and listened.

    I'm super closed out that I never talk personal shit to anybody but last night I forgot completely about it. I lost my frame. (ugh!)

    I felt pretty good last night but I just feel bad that I let myself be sucked in into the friendzone. I think she might have a boyfriend as well.

    I'm pissed that didn't make a move last night. Seriously, DAMSEL IN DISTRESS it always gets me.

    i want to know how should I handle these type of situations if it ever occurs again. how do i stay in frame? how do i keep my head on the game?

    I want a way out of this but I also want to just see where things go from here.

    Any advice, suggestions, violent reactions are welcome and encouraged

    Thanks
    Man I listen to chicks like a friend all the time. The key is kino escalation. You don't always have to be aloof. If you can make an honest emotional connection with a girl, I encourage you to do so.

    But you have to escalate your kino while doing so, ending with a kiss close.

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    Default Re: I had a crazy night

    I've done it two ways. I now go the route as the above poster stated. I listen while using lots of Kino. You only (maybe) got sucked into the friend zone because you didn't escalate. Not because you listened.

    I've also told them "Listen, this talk is bringing me down. I'm here to have a good time. It sucks what happened to you but it's in the past. Lets have fun." That's it.

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    Default Re: I had a crazy night

    Yeah I think I am stuck in the friendzone as well though not to not being awesome but to like they said not kino escalating. I made out with her when we met but then turned away when she tried to kiss me when we were hanging a couple weeks ago. Then she makes out with another guy and I broke it off. So I put myself kinda in the friendzone but I think because I lost interest. I am not saying I want her back I mean we still talk just not like we used to.

    But they are right forget to continually kino escalate will kill the emotional vibes between you. At first I was confused why she became so distant then I realized it was cuz I cut off the sexual escalation which now it makes sense why she goes out of her way to ignore me. I lost but okay my only problem is I am working all weekend so I can't go out but the weather is crud so less HB's going out. Either way I am hoping next Summer I deliver big time.

    As far as your story you are giving the girls too much validation and qualifying yourself too much. Do they like said...use your listening as a Segway for sexual vibes. Try to ping test them with the small stuff first then move into broader dimensions. For me the make outs are becoming easier it is just hard to stay that interested in them all the time.
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    Default Re: I had a crazy night

    Sorry for not being clear when I said "Emotional state". The thing is it also triggered her OCD and a big ass wall of Anti-Slut defense suddenly appeared. It was so massive that I can't even touch her or hold her hand.

    I managed to get passed it though but the thing is not all the way.
    Basically this was how the night progressed.

    7:00-10:30pm Drinking (as Friends)
    10:30-12:00pm Dancing/Partying (Sexual Partner)
    12:00-1:30pm The freak out (A hobo with his rotten dick hanging out)
    1:30-3:00pm The close (as Close Friends)

    Thanks people.

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    Default Re: I had a crazy night

    Listen to her if you can...hug her if you want...but ultimately you're not a therapist and shouldn't be aiming to hang around girls with those kinds of emotional problems anyway. I mean it's not like she had her legs bitten off by a shark. Women like men because we are strong and put things into perspective. If you get sucked into her vortex you become even worse than a counsellor. You become a friendzoned brick wall... a throw away mcdonalds 'listener'. It's ok to listen to her or to kino or to even neg her 'yeah yeah yeah...bring out the violins' but absolutely you must be able to guide her back out of her darkness and if you can't you shouldn't be wasting your time with her...you should be back in the club and arranging one of her girlfriends soak up her emotional flood.


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