Re: Paying for the meal on a date
Always keep your first date very casual and cheap. Don't do dinner or anything formal like that. If you're doing dinner, do something really casual like a burger in the park. In NYC the best bet is to just grab drinks. Although everyone does it, it works.
With this in mind, here's a great approach I use when I grab drinks. For the first drink I say I'll grab it, but she's grabbing the next one. This typically works well for me because my typical date looks like this:
First Bar Drink 1 --> Excuse self to the bathroom and upon return re-orient myself into a more intimate position --> First Bar Drink 2 --> Bounce to Second Bar with lots of kino on the way --> Drink 3 you buy on the same terms --> Drink 4 she buys
At that point, you're probably going home with her. This is an amazing date schedule, it works like a charm. And you don't have to worry about who buys what.
Anyways, the point is that anything works as long as you use your judgment.
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."