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    Default Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    I just started officially dating a girl after about a month of seeing eachother. Last night she went out with one of her lady friends and got pretty loose i guess, and she called me on her way home. we talked for a little bit and then she said that she wanted to fuck her friend and asked me if it was ok. Now, guys love seeing 2 women together, but when it comes to their girlfriend, its a toss up. Some think it would be awesome and some might think its cheating. She has told me that she has been with women before on drunken nights, before she met me. I have really wanted to be open sexually but I told her how I felt and said that I didnt know what I thought about that because I have never really thought about it seriously and never expected the situation to arise. Then she said she wouldnt do it. God knows if she did or not, and im not gonna make it a big deal. I would like opinions from some people on whether or not its cheating. Also I was thinking maybe I could throw in a catch to the whole situation. The catch is, is that she can do that only if im in the room or partaking in the festivities. I would really like to partake, lol. Any opinion is helpful. Thanks.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    I've dated multiple bi sexual women and I never had a problem with it. I always told them right away that if they wanted to mess around with other chicks I was totally fine with it. I didn't consider it cheating. I wasn't threatened by it. It all depends on what you're comfortable with.

    I told my first bi sexual girlfriend I wanted a threesome and she said she was okay with it at first. She then approached me about it a week later and told me she had been having nightmares about it. She said she couldn't do it because she would be too jealous. I wouldn't tell her it's only acceptable if you partake. I would tell her she can do it but you want to participate. If she doesn't like that then say ok. It doesn't mean it wont happen. All you need to do is hang out with both of them and jump in when they get all horny.

    I could have easily had a threesome with my first bi girlfriend if I just hung out with her and her girlfriend but I barely ever did. All I needed to do was spend more time with the two of them and when they got all worked up participate. When a girl gets turned on her logical thinking disappears and she just "go's with the flow".

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    Default Re: Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    What's the difference between me saying I want to partake and me saying I want to participate?

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    Default Re: Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    There's no difference.

    What I was trying to say is that if you're okay with it tell her you're okay with it. Then tell her you want to participate. If she doesn't like that then tell her that's fine.

    If she doesn't like the idea of you participating it doesn't mean it won't happen. You just need to hang out with the two of them and jump in when they get all hot for each other. It might be something like "you can only watch" then when they are messing around with each other you smoothly start touching your girlfriend and jump in. They will both be too horny to object.

    What I was saying is I wouldn't tell her it's ONLY okay if YOU partake. I feel like that would backfire. Either you're okay with it or you're not.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    OK thanks. I would like to let her do it so I don't seem so restrictive.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    I think direct's advice is solid.

    I would also add that cheating is different to everyone. Some people strong emotional connections with certain individuals to be cheating. Some consider kissing and flirting cheating... In my personal opinion cheating is defined by ignoring the other personal feelings in an event thats been previously discussed before hand. I'm not saying its not cheating if you havent talked about it before but ignoring their feelings and taking advantage of it would more than likely be considered cheating in my textbook
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend having sex with another girl- Opinions

    Ok so I probably should have mentioned that she is not actually "bi-sexual". She dates guys only but she has had her fun with just a hand full of girls after wild nights. How do I tell her that without sounding like I'm just trying to get 3 somes?


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