I was at a Friday night/Saturday night event for people who have the same sexual kink as me. There were maybe 60 people there, one was an HB10 and there were several other HB's who were clearly interested in me on Friday night. I spent probably 35% of my time with the HB10, and the rest of the time planting seeds with other women. Two of the less attractive HB's told me to come up to their hotel room.
I didn't take them up on their offer because about 75% of people know each other at this event. There are a lot of cliques who have known each other for a while, and I thought it might hurt my chances with the HB10 if she was friends with the HB's who wanted me in their hotel room. Turns out I was correct that the HB10 and one of the girls who wanted me in their hotel room are at least acquaintances if not friends.
Saturday night came when I was hoping to close with the HB10 or fall back on my other options, and none of them were interested except the HB10. It was like an off switch was flicked. I spent about 50% of my time talking, dancing, and hanging out with hB10 and her friends. The rest of the time I hung out with the disinterested HB's and some male acquaintances I made, if only to have people to talk to besides the HB10. I didn't want to suffocate HB10 with attention, and I occassionally ran out of interesting things to talk about.
I ended up striking out with HB10 because I left her around the end of the party to talk to some people, and then 20 minutes later I saw her going up the hotel elevator with a group of her friends and some other dude who had been gaming her. I had no back up options.
Three related questions arise from this:
1) Did HB10 become less interested because I left her to talk to other options? I thought that talking to my options would potentially make her jealous (usually a good thing), raise my status, and avoid suffocating her with attention. She had friends at the event she wanted to catch up with. Looking back I may have been better off talking/making friends with men so I don't come off as some kind of sleaze just trying to get a guaranteed screw for the night.
2) Would I have been better off spending all or most all of my time with HB10? I'm thinking I should have spent most all of my time with her in the final hour or two of the event. That was closing time, and I only hung out with her for maybe 50% of it.
3) Did the other HB's become less interested when they noticed I had chosen to focus most of my time on HB10?