There's a girl I have liked for a while but used to have a bf. She moved back in to town for a couple of months and ditched her old bf just before this move. She is only here for a couple of months again before having to move away.
We move in the same circles, and she made it pretty clear over a week or two that she was interested. I asked her out, and she easily complied to the date.
Now, the date was Friday night - dinner, then a bar/club where a friend of mine was DJing (social proof). In the bar, there was a lot lot lot of kino, and I could tell that she was really in to me; but she avoided when I went for a kiss, then quickly said she was meeting a friend early tomorrow and should leave. Unfortunately, I prob could have done more to ask her to stay, but instead she left.
Thing is, on the date she was dropping lots of hints about wanting a relationship, saying she was thinking about returning permanently to the city in future, being really interested in my social circle etc., and I'm pretty sure my SMV is a bit higher than hers, but I also knew straight away that I'd missed an opportunity by letting her go.
Later that night (when drunk and high ) I thought the only way to recover was to place myself as a challenge, put her in the chase frame and do a bit of push myself, so I texted her saying "I had a really great time with you last night! Though maybe us meeting up is a bit silly considering you're leaving town again soon". When I woke up, I wondered if I'd painted myself into a corner and also wondered if she just had a very high ASD and just doesn't like things pushed so much on a first date.
I really like her, and see her as gf material, but also I don't want a long-distance relationship and know I could do without her. Do I:
1) Wait a while without any reinstigating or pulling; trusting that she will eventually respond/come back to me trying to rationalise herself why it still would be okay for us to meet up
2) Re instigate in a few days suggesting that maybe it would still be cool to hang out, but suggesting again that a relationship is unlikely due to the soon-distance
3) Because she's Asian suggest something about how maybe because of cultural differences we might have different opinions about how dates should progress
4) Something else