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    Default Saturday night field report

    So I took the summer off from gaming and did one day of day game in the past month. Finally did a little more last night.

    First warm up was I saw a group of girls taking selfies and I tried to get in just being smiley and fun, not weird. They laughed and said no. I didn't care, it was funny

    Had some convos with people I knew and met through mutual friends, even flirty convo with some girls who I met in the social circle. Wasn't nervous.... Then I went to do my first approach.

    Grabbed one girl's hand who was like immediately pushed away by her friends. No way I was gonna stop that.

    This next approach my friend and i opened a two set. Both girls were dancing so I went in first and I pointed at her and was like "You! I'm gonna dance with you" I turned to the friend and said "I'm gonna dance with your friend" and began to pull the girl away. Then my friend came and opened the other girl. I felt I had a good strong frame, good eye contact, she was smiling and giggling, but then I feel like this is where it went wrong. I grabbed her arms and she told me to stop shaking. I've always had the problem of shaking when I get nervous, especially since I've taken so long off. And I try to keep alcohol low so I don't need it as a crutch. At first I was like no you're the one shaking (which in hindsight was stupid), then I tried to go with it and was like "yeah I guess I'm afraid of pretty girls" and laugh it off but I could see her just pulling away from me energy wise from then on. I did eventually calm down a little and just made some conversation to get out of my head, but then my friend bailed on the other girl because some guy came in and hugged her, so he assumed they knew each other and he left, because he assumed that that guy was gonna basically distract the other girl for me. Then the dude immediately walked away and I was left with one who was not really into it probably because of my nervous energy, and her friend who seemed a bit more outgoing (shoulda went for her in the first place but it's whatever now). After a little more convo with both, I said it was nice to meet them both and that I was gonna go find the group I was with.

    So yeah, basically I felt good about what I did (besides uncontrollable nervous trembling), and had I not been so nervous it could have gone better I think. I also feel I was more nervous because in my mind, I wasn't just talking to a group of friends, I was gaming. I'm planning on doing daygame at least every day from now on to get back into it and be able to control my nerves. I usually don't like doing it alone but at this point I want to get back to where I was so I have no choice.

    Any thoughts or comments from anybody?

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    Default Re: Saturday night field report

    I understand the nervous tremble from what you've described as something you shouldn't try to control, because doing so is just gonna make you think about it more and make it worse, so for now we're just gonna find a way around that.
    You know that where you went wrong was by saying pretty girls make you nervous, and you would think it would help but the problem is that it's beta when a second ago you were outgoing and dancing. Next time I would recommend playing it off more by saying something like "yeah the bartenders weren't very generous with the vodka in my red bull" or if you have a good enough frame " I wouldn't be shivering if your hands weren't so clammy!" (Obviously with a humorous tone.) it might sound bad but it's better than coming off beta. I wouldn't be surprised if you ended up less nervous after getting away with that either hahaha

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    Default Re: Saturday night field report

    Good tips, thanks. I honestly never have known how to respond because in my head I'm like "mother farker!" But I'll give any of those a try next time

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    Default Re: Saturday night field report

    The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

    You have the drive, and you eventually can get the nervousness out. I believe in you. Do what you feel is necessary.

    Also, I wouldn't have said "I'm afraid of pretty girls," but more something along the lines of it's from excitement. I would try not to give generic compliments regarding beauty, or at least not too early in the game.

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    Default Re: Saturday night field report

    Man, I'll never forget the first 3 months when I adopted game almost 10 years ago. Talk about fright! I'd pound back a shot of bourbon and 2 beers before I calmed down enough to approach. I used to get bone chillingly cold. I took to wearing blazers because of it. I have read that flexing your toes inside your shoes can help bleed off nervous energy. I tried it but it never worked for me lol

    Just remember that there are people who jump out of perfectly good airplanes to get that adrenaline rush. Learn to savor it. Like fine wine. Master it. It is conquerable.

    One way I motivated myself was to demonstrate my social value to other males by goading them to approach and when they balked, laugh at them and approach myself. Even if I got blown out, my sets stuck long enough to seem impressive to inexperienced guys.


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