So lately, I've been trying to get myself back into the dating game by approaching more, I'm even trying Online dating which already isn't my style. I've gotten a few numbers and some hit backs online via OkCupid/Tinder. But I have this ongoing issue that's really frustrating and I can't seem to bypass. Which is getting on the date or meet up itself. I'll start with some examples.
1. I got the number from a girl I hooked up with some nights back (she gave it to me), I hit her up a week later and we sent a few texts back and forth. But when it came down to it, I asked if she wanted to do something and got no text back.
2. A few girls online I was chatting up seemed to be into the conversation or at the very least engaged. We'll talk back and forth, build some common ground. But again, when I try to take things a bit further (a date/meet up), they flake or say nothing at all after a long conversation. Some of them I'll ask out sooner, some a little later but the result is the same.
3. Met another girl through a mutual friend while we were partying. We hung out most of the night and I "assumed" she was into me whether it was true or not. Anyway, end of the night, I got her number... cool. Again, we'd text back and forth. Talk of personal lives, school, our mutual friends, shared laughs, etc. I'm thinking this chick is cool. One thing lead to another and she said she was free that week since she hadn't started school yet. So again, I'd suggest we go for drinks or something and suddenly she went cold.
4. Recently, I started trying Tinder. I got a few matches and got a reply the other day. I didn't talk much because I figure this IS a dating app and the objective is to meet up after you match with that person. Everyone tells me this including my own social group who got me into it. We chatted very briefly but that's supposed to be it. No BS, no beating around the bush. But AGAIN, the moment I asked for a meet up, this one went cold too.
So in conclusion, I dunno what the heck it is that I'm doing wrong or what it is I'm not establishing correctly. I'll talk with them over text/messages for a while to somewhat build a connection, but when I ask or suggest a meet up they either flake or stop just responding (sometimes they stop even without me asking them out). But when I ask them for a meet up much sooner than later, the results are STILL the same. I want to assume I'm choosing farked up women but I know it probably isn't either. I don't know what else to do and it's really frustrating. Is it that I'm talking too little or too much? is it the way I'm asking them out? am I asking them out too soon or too late? am I not building enough trust? I seriously don't understand. I know we can't get every girl but this is happening way too often for me to believe it's them. I hate to sound like an AFC but honestly, my luck with woman CAN'T be any farking worse...
What do you guys think?