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Thread: LDR: Broke up with my girlfriend now i want her back

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    Default LDR: Broke up with my girlfriend now i want her back

    Hey everybody,

    I'm tony, new to the forum, hoping u can take a second to post your advice it will be greatly appreciated...

    Started dating this girl 4 months ago... im 26 and shes 24... great relationship heres some key facts:

    -A month into the relationship she told me she loves me
    -shortly after she started talking about us getting married
    -had sex in the 3rd month but wasnt good cuz i was wayyy too fast (my only problem she knew i was working on)
    -introduced me to her family and they love me

    About a month ago she went away for her last semester at college... we both agreed to give long distance a shot because we see a future together... we talked every night on the phone and everything seemed fine... two weeks in and she was telling me how shes stressed probably because she wanted to join the airforce and that recently fell through so shes uncertain about her future... she also occasionally asked if i was cheating and of course i wasnt... she has some insecurity issues... then she started acting weird on the phone and i got the vibe that she didnt want to continue the relationship (only a few days after she sent me $300 clothes and a birthday card telling me how much she loves me)

    I facetimed her the following day and asked how she feels about us now that we are like 3 weeks into the long distance relationship... she kept saying "i dont know and i dont know what i want... im not a good girlfriend...at one point she said i dont look at the relationship with as much love and care as you do... that was a red flag to me so i said listen if ur not committed to making this work then we should end it... she said idk can i have time to think about it... i said no if u need time then forget it we are done... then she said fine bye and ended the facetime...

    A week later i texted her "kegel exercises work!! (She knew i started doing them to last longer in bed) i had sex last night and lasted for an hour!!!" and included a screenshot from a girls text saying the sex was great (jealousy?)... she replied good for you happy for you leave me alone... i asked hows shes doing i still really care about you... she says good... a week later i text again and say i think the breakup was for the best and it would be a shame to throw away a great friendship... she said okay... i said id be lying ifi said i didnt miss u though i went out w 2 girls last weekend and it just wasnt tthe same as with u it sucked lol... she replies im busy right now doin homework i cant talk sorry... i said okay im going to sleep anyway got a big meeting in the morning to buy a store for my new cell phone business... she said okay goodnight


    Its been almost 2 weeks of no contact since that text... what should i do? I really like this girl and shes the best girlfriend i ever had and i could see myself settling down with her... should i contact her again or let her contact me? What is she probably thinking? Please give me your advice....

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    Default Re: LDR: Broke up with my girlfriend now i want her back

    Quote Originally Posted by islander3788 View Post
    Hey everybody,

    I'm tony, new to the forum, hoping u can take a second to post your advice it will be greatly appreciated...

    Started dating this girl 4 months ago... im 26 and shes 24... great relationship heres some key facts:

    -A month into the relationship she told me she loves me
    -shortly after she started talking about us getting married
    -had sex in the 3rd month but wasnt good cuz i was wayyy too fast (my only problem she knew i was working on)
    -introduced me to her family and they love me

    About a month ago she went away for her last semester at college... we both agreed to give long distance a shot because we see a future together... we talked every night on the phone and everything seemed fine... two weeks in and she was telling me how shes stressed probably because she wanted to join the airforce and that recently fell through so shes uncertain about her future... she also occasionally asked if i was cheating and of course i wasnt... she has some insecurity issues... then she started acting weird on the phone and i got the vibe that she didnt want to continue the relationship (only a few days after she sent me $300 clothes and a birthday card telling me how much she loves me)

    I facetimed her the following day and asked how she feels about us now that we are like 3 weeks into the long distance relationship... she kept saying "i dont know and i dont know what i want... im not a good girlfriend...at one point she said i dont look at the relationship with as much love and care as you do... that was a red flag to me so i said listen if ur not committed to making this work then we should end it... she said idk can i have time to think about it... i said no if u need time then forget it we are done... then she said fine bye and ended the facetime...

    A week later i texted her "kegel exercises work!! (She knew i started doing them to last longer in bed) i had sex last night and lasted for an hour!!!" and included a screenshot from a girls text saying the sex was great (jealousy?)... she replied good for you happy for you leave me alone... i asked hows shes doing i still really care about you... she says good... a week later i text again and say i think the breakup was for the best and it would be a shame to throw away a great friendship... she said okay... i said id be lying ifi said i didnt miss u though i went out w 2 girls last weekend and it just wasnt tthe same as with u it sucked lol... she replies im busy right now doin homework i cant talk sorry... i said okay im going to sleep anyway got a big meeting in the morning to buy a store for my new cell phone business... she said okay goodnight


    Its been almost 2 weeks of no contact since that text... what should i do? I really like this girl and shes the best girlfriend i ever had and i could see myself settling down with her... should i contact her again or let her contact me? What is she probably thinking? Please give me your advice....
    Well see.. here is the problem. Don't walk away unless you are truly prepared to walk away. Many guys say things like "I think we should break up", not really meaning it. They think that the girl will come crawling with apologies.

    However, many don't. So, you broke it off with her, it probably would have ended before long anyway. You may just have to sleep in the bed you made man. Obviously by her demeanor she's lost interest. May have to wait and hope to run into her after school is over and.she's back in town.

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    Default Re: LDR: Broke up with my girlfriend now i want her back

    I wonder if shes heartbroken or i hurt her feelings... should i apologize to her?

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    Default Re: LDR: Broke up with my girlfriend now i want her back

    Quote Originally Posted by islander3788 View Post
    I wonder if shes heartbroken or i hurt her feelings... should i apologize to her?
    No. Re read what you originally wrote. She never felt as strongly about the relationship as you did in the first place. She told you that flat out. She told you she's busy and she hasn't texted you first in how long? Those are all HINTS to get lost dude.

    The best advice is to just move on. Maybe when she gets back into town you can arrange to run into her somewhere. But chances are she's getting it on with some college guy. Your best bet is to get it on with another girl or... just take some time for yourself. One thing is for sure, she's gone. Game is not super glue that fixes broken relationships. For your own mental health I advise never contacting her again except face to face.


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