Re: Bartender pick up
Well I am a pro at picking up Hired Guns. I became so good at I was getting picked up by them eventually. Anyway it's about building Social Proof (ie becoming a regular, getting to know the staff/other bartenders, hitting up other targets).
Beyond that I have closed a bartender 8 months after meeting her and one the 2nd time after meeting her. Another Cocktail Waitress I picked up about the 3rd or 4th time talking to her but generally it takes time investment so they recognize you and you should make a habit of talking to them every time you go but also DHVing by meeting other eligible women (also helps not getting Oneitis).
Lastly go for a N-close by having the Hired Gun write their name and number down. I noticed this would be stupid to a regular target but for a Hired Gun it shows tact and shows you are different. After spending some time 3-4 interactions over different periods of time to get to know her instead of saying "Let me get your number." tell her "Write your number down I would like to see you outside of this place." Gold man.
My current project is the Hired Gun Hairstylist. Basically I am deploying a similar tactic by time investment by going direct and asking for her to build rapport. Then 2-3 more times of interacting I will go for the close by having her write her number down for me. I will close her in the middle to raise comfort since asking for it at the register would seem kinda desperate and also strike up my nerves. But if I ask her out during the middle I think she would have a hard time telling me no. Anyways wish me luck! And good luck to you too.
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