Again, I am a complicated case. Getting laid is not my primary objective as I am looking for an emotional connection, and these things do take time. I don't do ONS and prefer spending some time getting to know the girl first.
there's nothing wrong with wanting an emotional connection. I just want to make the point that sex is a great way to make that connection even stronger.

I know all this sounds completely idiotic to you.

nah, I realize now that you're at a different point in your life than I am. you're probably like 30 years old with a good job and you're looking for that one woman you want to have kids with or something. whereas with me, I'm a 20 year old college kid (21 in december) with nothing but time on my side, I can go after dumb 18 and 19 year olds who don't really know what they want out of life.(easy pickens lol) I have a good 5-10 years before I start looking to settle down, and believe me, I am going to make the most out of those years.

That was my No1 problem (being a nice guy) before discovering PUA. My problem now that I am dating more regularly is that I cannot/do not escalate efficiently and display a sexual vibe. I seldom do things correctly but most of the time I don't.
yeah, being sexual really helps to make girls feel sexually attracted to you.

are you ashamed of your sexual desires or something? there's nothing wrong with letting the girl know that you want it.

On the other hand, when I know very little the girl (I am sorry, but 3 dates are not enough for me) or when I am not too much into her, I kinda feel like I am forcing myself to escalate. Every move must be calculated and calibrated and all that shit. It becomes a pain in the ass and I have to make a conscious effort to make that move (while it happens naturally when I am into a girl).
so you're telling me, that you can't decide whether or not you want a girl after 3 dates? talk about indecisiveness....

most girls will decide if they like you sexually within the first 20 minutes of knowing you. while building an emotional connection is nice, it won't necessarily keep her sexually attracted to you.

I understand you're just looking for a girlfriend, and I also understand that making her want you sexually is also what will usually make her want you emotionally.

and btw,

It's more complicated than that. The truth is that I am not really attracted to this girl. Yes, she could be an easy lay, but I am not interested in that. I want a gf and I can't imagine her as my gf, no matter how much I try to like her. It's also easier to escalate when you are actually attracted to the other person and you desire them.
if you aren't attracted to her, then why the heck were you asking for advice about "gaming" her??????

you can be honest with us.....