There's this girl I met at a meetup and I don't know where I currently stand with her. She does chase me and seeks my company, but on the other hand she could just be hanging with me because she has no better options.
I met her back in April and we went out several times, sometimes just the 2 of us and sometimes as part of a group. Then, there was the summer break and we didn't see each other for 2 months, but I noticed she started writing to me more often. So, we kept in touch through sms and I then asked her out once I came back in September.
We went out once and hit it off (we must have spent like 7 hours together and I didn't even notice the time pass). Then, I invited her to my place for a movie night and I said I would prepare food from my country. It was a great day, so I wrote to her in the morning to suggest that we go to the park before watching the movie. She agreed but then called me 1 hour before the agreed meeting time to cancel everything under the pretext that she had gastroenteritis. Seemed really fishy to me and it was most probably a last minute flake.
To be honest, I was really pissed, not so much because of the missed opportunity, but more because I had gone through all the trouble of purchasing specialty products and making some cooking. I decided to go cold on her. She asked me out the week-end that followed and I declined saying that I had other arrangements.
I thought I would never hear from her again but she sent me a text again yesterday asking me if I had any plans. All my friends had betrayed me and I had run out of options, so I went on with it. I came along with a nice program and we actually had a good time (and managed to DHV by taking her to nice places I knew).
Now, the question is what do I do from here. Is she interested or is she simply lonely? I just know that she likes my company as she tries to drag out the night as long as possible by moving to new places. On the other hand, she is totally cool hanging out with guys in a platonic way (for example, she went on holidays with a dude she had zero interest in, poor guy...)
Concerning the flake, I am certain she's the shy type and from our discussions I have the impression she never had a bf before. She is a bit career oriented but not too happy with her personal life.
I am not super attracted to her but we are very similar in many ways, and we always have a good time when we hang out together. So, we are very compatible in terms of personality, which is a good thing as I am bored to tears on certain dates with other girls. For now I am taking things slow and don't escalate too much. She is now comfortable letting me touch her at least.
Anyway, I do see other girls in parallel, but I wonder if I should push things further with that particular one. I really cannot tell if I am in the friendzone or not (I am still ok with that since I have genuinely fun with her even as a friend).
I just don't want to overinvest in her if this leads to a dead-end. It will also make things weird between us. She told me she once stopped seeing a guy because he started liking her.
My instinct tells me it's just a friendly thing, but I would like the opinion of others.
Thanks in advance for any advice, guys!