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    Default I'm so confused! Please help me understand.

    Hello all! I'm fairly new to these forums, seemed like a really good place to get some much needed advice. I'll try to make this as simple as possible.

    I work with this girl who is 18, I'm almost 22. We started flirting like crazy when she got hired and it was the mean kind of flirt, you guys understand. It was fun and harmless and everyone in the office knew what was up. Well, one day last two weeks ago a coworker of mine told me, "She likes you". I denied it and she told me she'd prove it (they both worked the night shift, I worked day shift, so we kind of saw each other for a bit) but She did. She came back telling me that her words were, "I am very attracted to him and he's really funny! I didn't even know he liked me like that!" and my coworker replied, "So go home and think about what you would say if he asked you out" So I was shocked and excited. I went for this girl and we started texting a little and she had asked me to switch to a few nights so that she could hang out with me more.

    I did. So I thought, lets ask her to dinner. I was working her shift and I did Tuesday. She said, "Yeah if you want" with a smile. So later that day she texted me during work and said, "Can we do it tomorrow? My dad wants to meet me for dinner". I was obviously pissed off but I said sure.

    So the next day I easily asked her if we were on for that day, she said yeah...and i took her out for her dinner break! It went great, according to the both of us! My coworker asked her and she said, "He's great! He's really funny and fun! I had a great time!" Only thing is, her phone went off a few times and it kind of bothered me, but i shrugged it off.

    She didn't text me that whole rest of the day though, and the next day I worked her shift and I played the game. I didn't say a word to her and she broke and came into my office and said hey and talked to me for a bit and flirted, and said she was glad I was working her shift.

    So, in return... I asked her this past Friday, I said, " What are you doing Saturday at 6:00ish"? She said, "Probably still moving in my apartment, i got a lot of stuff to do."

    I looked at her and smiled and said, "Work with me" and she smiled and I said "what about Sunday?" and she said, "I am free Sunday." and smiled. I said alright. I'll pick you up Sunday around 6 or 6:30, I'll text you" and she smiled and said "okay"


    Texted her today. Said, "Goodmorning! Just making sure we're still good for this evening?" and her reply was, "well idk i got fired" and we discussed the reasons and it was because she was late too much. She said, "I'm still moving a few things but i'll let you know" I told her, "i know you may not feel up to it, but Id be happy to take you out tonight. it will get your mind off of everything and i promise you'll have fun " she said "lol okay. Well I'll text you and let you know when I'm done. "



    NOTHING. She looked at my snapchat story though. Had time for that.

    What the hell is going on?

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    Default Re: I'm so confused! Please help me understand.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonnpolkk View Post
    Hello all! I'm fairly new to these forums, seemed like a really good place to get some much needed advice. I'll try to make this as simple as possible.

    I work with this girl who is 18, I'm almost 22. We started flirting like crazy when she got hired and it was the mean kind of flirt, you guys understand. It was fun and harmless and everyone in the office knew what was up. Well, one day last two weeks ago a coworker of mine told me, "She likes you". I denied it and she told me she'd prove it (they both worked the night shift, I worked day shift, so we kind of saw each other for a bit) but She did. She came back telling me that her words were, "I am very attracted to him and he's really funny! I didn't even know he liked me like that!" and my coworker replied, "So go home and think about what you would say if he asked you out" So I was shocked and excited. I went for this girl and we started texting a little and she had asked me to switch to a few nights so that she could hang out with me more.

    I did. So I thought, lets ask her to dinner. I was working her shift and I did Tuesday. She said, "Yeah if you want" with a smile. So later that day she texted me during work and said, "Can we do it tomorrow? My dad wants to meet me for dinner". I was obviously pissed off but I said sure.

    So the next day I easily asked her if we were on for that day, she said yeah...and i took her out for her dinner break! It went great, according to the both of us! My coworker asked her and she said, "He's great! He's really funny and fun! I had a great time!" Only thing is, her phone went off a few times and it kind of bothered me, but i shrugged it off.

    She didn't text me that whole rest of the day though, and the next day I worked her shift and I played the game. I didn't say a word to her and she broke and came into my office and said hey and talked to me for a bit and flirted, and said she was glad I was working her shift.

    So, in return... I asked her this past Friday, I said, " What are you doing Saturday at 6:00ish"? She said, "Probably still moving in my apartment, i got a lot of stuff to do."

    I looked at her and smiled and said, "Work with me" and she smiled and I said "what about Sunday?" and she said, "I am free Sunday." and smiled. I said alright. I'll pick you up Sunday around 6 or 6:30, I'll text you" and she smiled and said "okay"


    Texted her today. Said, "Goodmorning! Just making sure we're still good for this evening?" and her reply was, "well idk i got fired" and we discussed the reasons and it was because she was late too much. She said, "I'm still moving a few things but i'll let you know" I told her, "i know you may not feel up to it, but Id be happy to take you out tonight. it will get your mind off of everything and i promise you'll have fun " she said "lol okay. Well I'll text you and let you know when I'm done. "



    NOTHING. She looked at my snapchat story though. Had time for that.

    What the hell is going on?
    She lost her job. You may be a part of the reason why, or at least she may perceive it that way even if no one at your job knows for sure. Certainly they suspect. At any case, You may have to write this one off. The remedy is always the same. Don't text first. Wait for her to do it. If she never does.. well you have your answer. In the meantime, find a new girl and be more careful gaming at work.

    It's like this, if you are meeting a new girl every week. You won't care when one disappears off the radar.

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    Default Re: I'm so confused! Please help me understand.

    No I totally understand. The thing is, she is allowed an hour for lunch, she took an hour and a half on Thursday because of an unexpected delay with a power tech at her apartment. The managers didn't like that, so they fired her. (so she says)

    It's just weird. She's a definite 10 on my scale. But she gets almost a hundred likes on her instagram/facebook pics and such. So when I found out she liked me, it felt good. We clicked, it felt great.

    Idk... just let down I guess. Not sure where I stand.

    What am I chopped liver? Was I used? I got passed the first date and she agreed to the second... just weird series of events.

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    Default Re: I'm so confused! Please help me understand.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonnpolkk View Post
    No I totally understand. The thing is, she is allowed an hour for lunch, she took an hour and a half on Thursday because of an unexpected delay with a power tech at her apartment. The managers didn't like that, so they fired her. (so she says)

    It's just weird. She's a definite 10 on my scale. But she gets almost a hundred likes on her instagram/facebook pics and such. So when I found out she liked me, it felt good. We clicked, it felt great.

    Idk... just let down I guess. Not sure where I stand.

    What am I chopped liver? Was I used? I got passed the first date and she agreed to the second... just weird series of events.
    Man, trust me. I know how you feel, there are a million and one things that can go wrong in any given seduction. It is, has been, and always will be a game of variables. Most of them completely beyond your control. All you can do is become more more aggressive in your approaches, not at work, but in your general social life. Increase the odds in your favor. These disappointments are part of game, as much as life.

    Give her ten days and try an actual phone call, not a text. See what her repsonse is. If.she doesn't answer, leave no voice mail. Let her call you.

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    Default Re: I'm so confused! Please help me understand.

    Id suggest not reading too much into anything when it comes to deciding what to do. Instead sleep on it. As stated by the above--shes probably overwhelmed even though she's got loads of free time. I wouldnt make it a big deal if you're just trying to get her to go out and have a good time. She doesnt owe you anything and vice versa. If she brings up work then talk about it but dont assume there is a problem unless she puts one on the table. If you're having trouble getting ger to respond try text her with incomplete sentences that imply something great or positive in which if she responds she's likely to enjoy the response if she invests even. Consider texting something like "had this really fun idea. Hope youre free on xxx because..."

    If she doesnt respond let a couple of days pass and try changing it up a bit and see about connecting through rapport.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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