Hey guys, I'm new to this forum but have known of the PUA community and some techniques for some time. Sorry about the wall of text below but I'd be very grateful to anyone who takes the time to read it and offers any constructive criticism or advice.
A little bit about me - I'm 27 years old, consider myself to be fairly good looking and I have a family (partner and a child). I love my partner and have been faithful for 7 years, but feel like a monogamous relationship is not enough for me (we've actually talked about this and she understands).
If a PUA was a 10 and an AFC a 1, I'd say I'm about a 5... I'm not a skilled PUA by a any means and I can improve in a lot of areas, but I'm not a complete AFC either.
Anyway, I decided that I would go out and find someone(s) to have no-strings-attached sex with. I'm out of town about once a month with work - a perfect opportunity. So, I suited up and went to a strip club, and end up number-closing a HB10 who may be one of the sexiest girls I've ever seen.
The next night, we are having sex, and it goes great. We agree to meet up again next time I'm in town.
A few weeks later, after texting a bit, we do meet up but it's her time of the month, so we watch a movie and she's real cuddly. We sleep together and it feels like I have built a lot of comfort. Two nights after she wants to see me but is working so she invites me to come down. I go and have a few drinks and we chat and then agree to meet when she finishes. It should be noted that I have not spent any money on her at all in this whole saga. Also, I feel like I'm not on my best game here and I make some silly DLVs by accident but i got over these (or so I thought) and closed well.
So, 4am, her shift ends and I hear nothing, I text a simple "u ok?" And get nothing, then I call and she has turned off her phone. So, I'm a little confused but guess she's just tired after work or found something else she wants to do and I let it go.
I text her the next day and she says she was tired, and again we arrange to meet up next time I'm in town. Texts are sporadic over the next couple of weeks and when I phone her she doesn't answer. So I'm beginning to get the message and send the last resort text, to which she doesn't respond.
Anyway, next time I'm in town I go back to the club, and I see her there and we talk and I act cool about the whole scenario. I feel like the thing has run its course, and then I go to work on a different stripper (HB9) and end up number-closing her and arranging to meet after her shift.
Then I go to leave and pass my original target on the way out, I say, so i guess I won't be seeing you for a long time, and she makes a sad face and she cuddles me and she won't let me go. I mean, this cuddle feels like she's trying to tell me something. I start to break off but she carries on and when we eventually break we maintain solid eye contact for a few seconds after. I tell her to text me if she wants to see me, and not to if she doesn't, she says okay. Now, this was 5 days ago, and she hasn't text yet.
I'm back in town next week and I want to know what you guys think I should do - if I should text her something fun and try to restart communications or if I should just turn up at the club and hope she is there...
I have the other stripper to fall back on, but trying to use her to get to the other one is a dangerous game, it's not fair on either of them, and it's a game I'd rather not play.
Appreciate your time guys