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Thread: PUA seems so.....robotic and unnatural

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    Default PUA seems so.....robotic and unnatural

    I used to think I was pretty good at PUA but now that I'm single again I'm starting to see how much of a beginner I actually am. Seeing as I haven't gotten laid in over a month, I want to ask for advice here.

    Whenever I see a girl (not in my friend/work circles) I want to hook up with or date, I'm thinking of the whole process from opening to sex as a linear, step-by-step process. By that I mean I come up with a clever opener, some small talk, get her number, text her for a couple days, invite out on a date, etc etc. My problem is it seems like my intentions are so obvious that it works not in my favor and girls have their guards up. That's probably why I've never been a big fan of direct game. To me it seems like (especially at bars and clubs) I'm just another guy going through the motions and trying to hook up, rather than a cool guy she just happened to meet and start dating.

    Me being in a relationship for a little over a year has got me to see that friendship comes first, then I hope to break outta friend zone (seems pretty easy to me to be honest), to start dating. This is cool and all but as of lately since I graduated college, moved away, and started an 8-5 job, my social life has been next to dead resulting in me being alone.

    So here's my problem - I feel awkward (not approach anxiety, but in that robotic way mentioned above) when trying to date random people I don't know. And my social life is pretty much dead so I don't date people in my friend circle. Has anyone else been in a similar situation as me? It's my first time that I can remember since high school that I haven't been dating or hooking up with at least one girl.

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    Default Re: PUA seems so.....robotic and unnatural

    Actually, I would imagine anyone with any level of skill has been where you are now. Pick up was massively counter intuitive for me. I was robotic, unnatural and thought about giving up on several occasions. That being said, the difficulty inspired me. As it should you.

    If you really want women in your life, then you'll practice and you'll get better. When you get better it won't be robotic and unnatural, it becomes second nature at some point. You won't need to think about routines or pick up because it's naturally a part of who you are.

    Quote Originally Posted by OG_PlMP View Post
    I used to think I was pretty good at PUA but now that I'm single again I'm starting to see how much of a beginner I actually am. Seeing as I haven't gotten laid in over a month, I want to ask for advice here.

    Whenever I see a girl (not in my friend/work circles) I want to hook up with or date, I'm thinking of the whole process from opening to sex as a linear, step-by-step process. By that I mean I come up with a clever opener, some small talk, get her number, text her for a couple days, invite out on a date, etc etc. My problem is it seems like my intentions are so obvious that it works not in my favor and girls have their guards up. That's probably why I've never been a big fan of direct game. To me it seems like (especially at bars and clubs) I'm just another guy going through the motions and trying to hook up, rather than a cool guy she just happened to meet and start dating.

    Me being in a relationship for a little over a year has got me to see that friendship comes first, then I hope to break outta friend zone (seems pretty easy to me to be honest), to start dating. This is cool and all but as of lately since I graduated college, moved away, and started an 8-5 job, my social life has been next to dead resulting in me being alone.

    So here's my problem - I feel awkward (not approach anxiety, but in that robotic way mentioned above) when trying to date random people I don't know. And my social life is pretty much dead so I don't date people in my friend circle. Has anyone else been in a similar situation as me? It's my first time that I can remember since high school that I haven't been dating or hooking up with at least one girl.

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    Default Re: PUA seems so.....robotic and unnatural

    Truthfully I agree with Suave Kino, you got to get better, keep talking to women and it becomes SECOND NATURE. It's freaking crazy how natural it will be to you. The Practice is boring but the results are worth it when you start to see results. Just keep at it.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: PUA seems so.....robotic and unnatural

    Just be social and awesome to everyone you meet. Even other guys. You'd be surprised how you learn about social skills and opening more naturally when you start opening naturally to any and everyone. Just say good morning to people and smile. You never know what may happen.

    Also, don't dwell on the past. The past is done and over, either it was great or horrible. Don't compare now and then. You said your schedule is different now, so your social life is not dead, it just has to change... To meet new challenges.

    Also I think you just might be growing up man. Maybe adulthood is finally upon you completely and it's just growing pains. It'll pass believe me
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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