I used to think I was pretty good at PUA but now that I'm single again I'm starting to see how much of a beginner I actually am. Seeing as I haven't gotten laid in over a month, I want to ask for advice here.
Whenever I see a girl (not in my friend/work circles) I want to hook up with or date, I'm thinking of the whole process from opening to sex as a linear, step-by-step process. By that I mean I come up with a clever opener, some small talk, get her number, text her for a couple days, invite out on a date, etc etc. My problem is it seems like my intentions are so obvious that it works not in my favor and girls have their guards up. That's probably why I've never been a big fan of direct game. To me it seems like (especially at bars and clubs) I'm just another guy going through the motions and trying to hook up, rather than a cool guy she just happened to meet and start dating.
Me being in a relationship for a little over a year has got me to see that friendship comes first, then I hope to break outta friend zone (seems pretty easy to me to be honest), to start dating. This is cool and all but as of lately since I graduated college, moved away, and started an 8-5 job, my social life has been next to dead resulting in me being alone.
So here's my problem - I feel awkward (not approach anxiety, but in that robotic way mentioned above) when trying to date random people I don't know. And my social life is pretty much dead so I don't date people in my friend circle. Has anyone else been in a similar situation as me? It's my first time that I can remember since high school that I haven't been dating or hooking up with at least one girl.