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    Default I NEED to Start All Over With Pick Up

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    I haven't been posting much lately, but I've been reading the forums every once in a while. I even picked up a couple books. Not sure what's going on, but my game is straight up TRASH. I feel like I'm reverting back to the AFC I was just two years ago.

    I've been very hesitant with escalating, even more so with approaches - day or night, on campus or off. My text game is also pretty trashy, but I blame the lack of new numbers. And that goes back to my lack of approaching.

    As for the girls I've been seeing, they bore me.They REALLY bore me. Plus, they can give frosted flakes a run for their money. Strangely, I'm OK with them flaking. I have no problem with that because I don't mind erasing them from my life. It makes things easier in the future - less birthdays to keep track of

    But on a more serious note, I know they flake because I'M doing something wrong. It's either my texting, which I've been doing very little of as opposed to when I was really into it, or it's my in-person game. Like I said, I'm very hesitant to escalate, flirt, etc. It's not that I fear rejection (I don't give a fark about it), it's probably the fact that I have it beaten into my head that I don't like, and refuse to, waste time.

    I've also changed my entire view on everything I've learned. I read through some of my older posts and thought, "DAMN, THAT'S GOOD!" without recognizing it was ME who said and did those things. Past that, some of the advice I read on the forums from all of you to others makes me cringe. Not because it's bad; it's farking epic. It's just that I feel like it's too much or plain uncomfortable (step out of your comfort zone, blahblahblah).


    What I think I need is to start ALL OVER. From the beginning. I have to dump out EVERYTHING I know and gain the knowledge back bit by bit. I've tried it a few times, but it never really worked out. I even went back to the newbie guide. Problem is, I know and have done all of those things. Approaching them again with a clear head would be a lot better, no doubt about it. Anyway, what do you guys suggest?

    TLDR - I'm going back to AFC. Need to start over. How to dump what I know? Where to begin?
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    Default Re: I NEED to Start All Over With Pick Up

    I'm just getting back up to a mid level in my game, after kinda the same reset.

    Start with square 1 - you aren't approaching, so approach. Set approach goals, make yourself approach X a day or night when you go out. If you approach sucks, dissect it and figure out how to improve what you're doing.

    I've realized I'm not teasing nearly as well as I used to, or know I should be. So that's what I'm working on doing now.

    You know the steps, you know approach anxiety is stupid. Set goals, and make some honest reports here about where you're progressing towards meeting them.

    Also - read more every day. I just set a goal that I need 1 hour a day devoted to game practice, like reading, goal setting, practicing trigger words, field reports, whatever. All sorts of stuff that keeps the ideas in your head for improvement - this is beyond the normal going out a few times a week and those goals.

    You'll get it back man, have faith, and good start with the post.
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    Default Re: I NEED to Start All Over With Pick Up

    And remember that you managed to walk that road once, so trust in yourself to be able to do it once again
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    Default Re: I NEED to Start All Over With Pick Up

    I am in kinda the same situation. I had pretty good game, finally destroyed approach anxiety, #&f-closes etc. But I stoped it and spent the summer in the USA, working at a summer camp. Failed to game some of the international counselors, but fell in love with a fellow hungarian student girl - who has a BF. So coming home alone - and find myself a total AFC.

    I feel AA again, hesitate at girls, fail at setting up dates. Only been one date with a girl from Tinder, but couldn't set up a day 2. My wings coming to me, saying what's up to you, and I can't answer. I try to heil step by step.

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    Default Re: I NEED to Start All Over With Pick Up

    I think it's just an inevitable part of gaming.

    Whenever you devote your whole life to a concept, inevitably you'll get restless. It's just how humans are. We need a break from everything, even things we love. I think very few of us could devote our entire lives to gaming ala Mystery or David D et al lol

    I lost quite a bit of my personality learning game. But then I started getting into my usual interests a again. I needed to find myself, at least as far as my personality. I had left my insecurities behind. Add that onto PU and I felt really confident and had Uber success. But after awhile, you can just drift into bad habits again.

    So the trick is to take time off from learning game and practicing but don't take too much time. You need to find that balance otherwise you drift too far.

    Reading will help alot, going over old posts that you made. Try to keep it fresh by going to authors who you didn't originally. Could be you just need a fresh outlook to gaming.
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    Default Re: I NEED to Start All Over With Pick Up

    Usually this problem is due to an issue with "INNER game". It's because you see yourself a certain way, which is less than ideal in one or more areas.

    The key is to recognize your weaknesses & accept them. THEN, it becomes a choice of whether or not you're going to face them & deal with them.

    Or... are you going to hang your head low & give up?


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