You may have seen my other thread about the Stripper I am "seeing" and this relates to that situation but is a little bit more general.
So, long story short, this girl, HB10, who I have slept with and get on really well with (when I actually see her), keeps flaking on dates. So far, I've seen her half-a-dozen times in total, only twice outside of the club. She flaked on four out of six possible opportunities. Her excuse is typically that she is tired from work that evening or the night before.
The situation is little more complicated as she is out of town and I can only see her when I am visiting for work purposes, at the moment about once per month, so when she flakes, it is fucking annoying, because the next chance to see her could be a while away.
I stopped texting her for a couple of weeks due to a perceived lack of interest from her and then I suddenly show up in the club this week, and she is real happy to see me and we have a great night in each others company. We flirt relentlessly and we make plans to meet up the following day (yesterday), she flakes, and then she asks if im around the next day (today), and as usual i act cool about it.
Tonight, she flaked again and, having acted cool on past occasions, i text her that if she didn't want to see me why doesn't she just say so instead of pretending to want to see me and then cancelling with hardly any notice... EEEEHHHH pretty shortly afterwards i realise that's probably not a great move.
Anyway, I call her almost immediately, and it goes something like this - initially, she is a little angry and says she has read my text and has nothing to say, and that i dont understand. Calmly, I tell her to look at it from my point of view, explain my position, and ask her what she expects me to think? She cools down a little and then says that being a stripper is hard work and its difficult for her to squeeze in a date with me when she is working a lot this week, and i grudgingly accept that she might have a point... again she insists that she does want to see me and she asks me how i can think that she isn't interested after we spent the whole night together the other day etc etc, and I end up a little perplexed. She says she is sorry, and after a moment, I tell her I am sorry as well.
I say, "look, I dont know when I am going to be in town next, so i guess ill see you when i see you" and then she says that she might be able to take a break tonight and we can grab a drink for half an hour, but it seems a little forced so I dont respond directly. I say that I dont want to come to club and stop her making money, and she doesnt tell me that she wants me to come down, so i take that as an IOD. She does however, say that she will be in my neck of the woods soon and that she wants to meet up in X place, but she doesnt commit to a time.
The conversation doesnt end particularly well and its a little awkward - we dont set up anything in concrete (its hard given that we honestly dont know when we'll see each other). And after a few "yeah, so's" and "Okay's" we say bye.
I dont want to apologise, or beg her to see me, or put pressure on her, but I do want to see her. Is there anything I can do to fix this? More generally, how should you respond when a girl flakes multiple times, but insists that she wants to see you? As it stands, I'm not happy with how we left things - should i re-initiate contact right away, or give it a few days and then call her when I am back in my home town?
I'll probably be back in the city in a few weeks and I can try and tee something up with her beforehand, if i get out of this little jam.
Thanks for your time fellas.