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    Default Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    So I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks - met her while I was bartending, she was flirting with me pretty hard, gave me her number and basically asked me out. We both work a lot and have pretty tough schedules, so we've only hung a few times in 3 weeks, made out a good bit and I came real close to closing the deal. She's also not much of a texter, which is fine because I'm too busy to be texting back and forth all day anyway.

    Anyway, the last week or so I've noticed her seeming a little standoffish. Friend of mine is a bartender at another bar nearby, said that he's seen her in there a few times getting cozy with another guy. No big deal, but I'm pretty sure that's why she's been distant towards me. How do I tip the scales in my favor? I don't necessarily like this girl, and my early impression is that she's a little nutty, but I'd really like to seal the deal.

    Any tips?

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    Also, she still comes into the bar I work at, both when I'm working and when I'm not...she hasn't brought the other guy in with her, not yet at least.

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    I think texting could help you. You say she's not much of a texter... Maybe your text skills stink. Texting helps keep her thinking of you. Even if she can't respond right away, you can get in her head by texting.

    And most women are texters... Usually not right away. It's common to happen that way. Give it a shot.
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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    I think texting could help you. You say she's not much of a texter... Maybe your text skills stink. Texting helps keep her thinking of you. Even if she can't respond right away, you can get in her head by texting.

    And most women are texters... Usually not right away. It's common to happen that way. Give it a shot.
    I readily admit that my text game leaves a lot to be desired, I'm much better in person. But I work two jobs, neither of which allow me much time to be texting back and forth. It's the same with her. Knowing that, what's a good way to approach it? I last texted her last night and never got a response back (she was out with the other guy last night according to my friend), so for now I'm just backing off a bit. Obviously don't want to over-pursue.

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    Well, you shouldn't be worrying about who she is out with. Because you should be pursuing multiple girls as well.

    Follow some good text guides on here. A text here or there from you does not signify neediness or being clingy. Texting every day when she's not responding is clingy. Oh and you can call her a lame texter. That will get her responding.

    If you're busy, texts are great cuz you can respond whenever. It's easier than taking time to talk for a half hour. Also, texts are low investment for her, so if she's a bad texter, she may not be invested enough. Texting is a good IOI as long as she gets into the discussion
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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Well, you shouldn't be worrying about who she is out with. Because you should be pursuing multiple girls as well.

    Follow some good text guides on here. A text here or there from you does not signify neediness or being clingy. Texting every day when she's not responding is clingy. Oh and you can call her a lame texter. That will get her responding.

    If you're busy, texts are great cuz you can respond whenever. It's easier than taking time to talk for a half hour. Also, texts are low investment for her, so if she's a bad texter, she may not be invested enough. Texting is a good IOI as long as she gets into the discussion
    I'm only "worried" about who she's out with in the sense that it affects her response (or lack of) to me. I have a few lines in the water at the present time, so I don't want you to think I'm putting all my eggs in one basket here. Expecting her to dedicate all of her attention to me would be hypocritical, but some kind of ebb and flow would be preferable.

    I was just curious if there were any good ways to tip the scales in my favor, as I said. But I'll read up on some of the text guides, thanks.

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    There are. But you have to set up a frame where you're the chooser, not the pretender. As in, put yourself above her, which can be done if you razz her.

    By the way, it would be great if you flake on her a couple of times.

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    There are. But you have to set up a frame where you're the chooser, not the pretender. As in, put yourself above her, which can be done if you razz her.

    By the way, it would be great if you flake on her a couple of times.
    Any tips on how to razz her?

    And yeah, I was thinking the same thing about flaking. But as it is now, I don't have much of her attention anyway, so it's a little tough to flake on her. If I get the momentum swayed back towards me, that's definitely something I'll try to do.

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    You don't know how to tease? It's the easiest thing in the world man.

    For example, if you're with her and she stumbles, you can say something like: "oh man, I don't want you to fall, you'd hurt the ground. "

    Or if she goes against a door: "damn girl, no need to be so nervous around me " ... or "so we're hanging out and you're going against everything, I can't take you nowhere! "

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    Default Re: Best way to tip the scales in my favor?

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    You don't know how to tease? It's the easiest thing in the world man.

    For example, if you're with her and she stumbles, you can say something like: "oh man, I don't want you to fall, you'd hurt the ground. "

    Or if she goes against a door: "damn girl, no need to be so nervous around me " ... or "so we're hanging out and you're going against everything, I can't take you nowhere! "
    Ah gotcha...yeah, I'm good with that kinda thing, just wasn't sure exactly what you meant by "razz." The only problem is getting the face time to be able to work my game. Like I said, I'm much better in person, but my text game to get there is lacking.


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