Hey guys, there's a thing that just has happened to me 2nd time and I really wanna find out the why.
Flaking is a real bitch, we all know that. But in these cases I feel like it happened because of calling the girl. I'm not talking about forcing phone talk -or at least I hope so - but it seems like something like that.
I hooked up both HB on Tinder - they both 18 or something, so pretty young, really into social networking - you know what I mean, this generation that rarely got in touch personally. I think it's kinda important part of the story.
I managed to get on a date with the 1st one. The date went well, good vibe, good convo, but only cheek-kiss, she didn't let me get in french with her. Talking about 2nd date, but she said she is busy like 2 times. Once I called her - she seemed shy through phone, she said she was surprised I called her. We talked a lot through facebook, but from this point, the phone call, she went cold - not reinitiate contact with me, disclaim dates - when it happened the 3rd time, I just gace up and move on - I really liked her and it seemed like she liked me before.
Things went well with the 2nd HB, I thought. Went from Tinder to facebook, #-closed on the peek of our conversation, agreed on a later meetup. A few days after the talk, I texted her, she texted back, also asking for the details of our meetup. A day or 2 later, I tried to call her - didn't pick up. Write her on facebook something like: "It seems like we need to hire secretaries to manage to talk to each other. Tell your people let mine when you are free to talk". She apologized, and agreed to meet on Tuesday (itt happened yesterday). I told her I would call her today with the exact details, she said ok. I tried to call her, but didn't pick up, so I leave a playfull message about the secretary-thing, asking if around 5 pm is fine for her. I checked it 10 minutes later - she deleted me on facebook, not returning call or message.
I have nothing to loose so I wrote her on tinder saying there's no problem being a little shy or too busy to meer - but deleting me on facebook was a bit surprising. But anyhow, have a great nght and awesome week.
So, my guess is that nowadays, with younger chicks who rarely phone and prefer texting and facebook, calling and forcing phone is come down as needy or too pushy for them - what do you think guys?
As for me, I found myself a bit weird agreeing about a date and meeting with someone without actually speking to her on phone... but should I do that? Because after the 2 cases detailed above, i just got confused and a bit said.