Yes, of course a woman can become addicted to a man and a man can become addicted to a woman.
Usually I think this happens in highly sexually charged or taboo relationships.... when you put fire with fire. Not in an everyday, long term turn predictable/comfortable relationship. It happens when there is an intense attraction between two people, usually fueled by fantasy and drama. Often you can add emotional attraction to the mix. But definitely physical. Both have to know how to push each other's buttons.
The addiction comes with uncertainty, up's and down's and how the man treats her. If he lays down in front of her and rolls out the red carpet, no, there won't be an addiction. Maybe loyalty. Maybe respect. Maybe friendship. But no addiction. Addiction is fueled by fire and excitement. Usually and sadly a guy who treats a woman well will no longer excite her. I mean he has to treat her well to a degree so that she stays put but he also has to keep her guessing to keep her roped in. Fact: Married a nice guy. Was with him forever. Got tired of him sexually. He became a door mat. Now I am dating a man who is attached. He keeps me on edge. All the time. No predictability with this one. Loves me one minute. Goes cool the next. If I ignore him, he chases me. He gets jealous of other men. I get jealous of other women. We sometimes try to make each other jealous. It is all a game. And very exciting at that but the downside, for us women or me at least is that it comes with a high price tag. At the price of your emotional well being. So many lows for so many highs. You can trade the lows for the highs in a heart beat so long as he keeps feeding you the excitement. And knows how. So for it to keep going the highs will have to outnumber the lows. When that stops, you no longer have something exciting but rather something too painful. So it is hard cause you are addicted to the guy and the relationship. You want it to remain in the excitement phase forever. But you also want him for yourself. And then you don't cause you are afraid the fantasy will collapse if you are washing his socks and cooking his meals.
Gotta say that players sure do know what they are doing. I have met an expert. Good thing he has met his match. No doubt about that.
Yes it is an addiction and yes, it is exciting as long as you can keep it that way. But at the end of the day, it is not healthy, like any other addiction. You are getting a feel good chemical from him and mostly how he makes you feel (and vise versa). Any a player knows as long as you keep a girl guessing and hold back enough for her to keep pursing you, you will have her exactly where you want her. Women like the challenge. They hate it when a man does not pay attention and will seek it out even more if you hold back. But you still have to pay enough attention to keep her interest too. As long as he knows that he has to balance the hot with the cold. Too much hot can turn a woman off and too much cold can too. So an expert player knows how many doses to use of each and exactly when.
But remember it works both ways. I do the exact same thing to the man I am addicted to. This is why he is addicted to me too!!
I will say though that cheating would end it all for me in a heartbeat. You gotta play by the rules. Many women accept cheating men back not because they have mad sexual skills in bed but because they believe or delude themselves into believing that he is sorry and he will change. They try to save him but a cheater cannot be saved. It is cause they love him not cause he is good in bed. The good in bed comes from the chemistry they BOTH share. Women perform better in the bedroom when they are connected to a man in some way, beyond physical. A guy can be good in bed but I don't care if I have no emotional connection to him. And I won't be at my very best for him if I am not connected emotionally. But that's just me.