O.K. So I've been Friend Zoned by a girl I like. I'm looking to get an interpretation of the situation and if there exists a possible way to fix it....that would be great too.
Alright, where do I begin. Fuck. I'm going to go into painstaking details here.
I met this girl about a year and a half ago. Very beautiful girl. We met online, through a university social website. She was fugly growing up, but she's drop dead gorgeous now. Gets A LOT of attention from men.
When I met her, she was getting over a very bad breakup. Her ex cheated on her and it absolutely destroyed her. From what I can tell, before the breakup she was a much more secure girl. Currently, it's very clear she isn't looking for a relationship. I asked her out very soon after meeting her. We went on a date - it was O.K. but I honestly wasn't getting any vibes. She most likely agreed to go out with me because I was just a nice guy. I was that "Shoulder to cry on" which was my first mistake. At the time, it was clear that she was still not over her ex - still dealing with those emotions, and I just wasn't down for that, so I never asked her out again. However, at this point it was very clear to her that I liked her.
I eventually moved away for a period of about 8-10 months (I can't remember). We never really "talked" but there was always regular communication on social media in the form of likes on facebook or small flirtatious comments.
Then about a month ago, I moved back to her hometown. At this point, she began liking almost everything on facebook. Every time I posted ANYTHING, she would like it or comment. It was like having a fucking facebook girlfriend (yuck) Anyways, we started hanging out more often until one night we went out togethor to a local nightclub. I should mention at this point that I'm SURE she had options - she must have chosen to go out with me for a reason, namely, attraction. At least that's what I thought. I should also mention that whenever I see her, she's incredibly flirtatious - and I've been returning that flirtation. I SWEAR I've caught her eye-fucking me before. She's commented several times about my body (I'm really jacked) saying I look "good" and at get togethors I've caught her using excuses to touch me. From all this I took it she was attracted.
So we go out to this club and she gets absolutely fucking hammered. Starts talking about sex and how she hasn't been laid in like 6 months, how she bought a dildo, etc. I take these as obvious IOI's. End of the night rolls around and she say's "Hey let's go back to your place," and I assume we're going to fuck.
NOPE. We get home and she just starts puking her guts out. I end up taking care of her the whole night. I put her in my bed, we're cuddling, holding hands with fingers intertwined and rubbing her back. Intimate cuddling, basically. Didn't feel very platonic. I couldn't exactly fuck her though...
So long story short, she goes home, texts me all about how that's the sweetest thing any guys every done for her in a long time, blah blah blah. Then sends me a meme the next day showing a one night stand - the meme shows what ideally should happen (the guy getting laid) and then what happened (a girl puking into a bucket while the guy leaves confused)
Obviously, I take this as another IOI - her basically telling me she was going to fuck me.
Cut to the next week, I go to her house for a party, end up leaving something at her house on purpose. At the party she starts talking about other guys, and hitting on other guys at the bar...I'm like wtf in my head.
I end up staying over at her place and sleeping in her bed, but this time nothing happens. No cuddling...nothing. Being the pussy I am, I don't make a move. Fuck.
The next day she once again turns the topic to sex. This time about how hates one night stand with rando's and how she only sleeps with "friends" whatever the fuck that means. I agree and we have a conversation about ppl we've slept with. Again, I take this as an IOI. Chick is always talking about sex.
Next week I go over to her house to go to a club with her and her girlfriend. Girlfriend cancels and we end up laying in her bed very close to each other. She's all dolled up, I'm leaning over her, rubbing her stomach, playing with her hair near her ear, etc. AGAIN SHE TURNS THE TOPIC TO SEX. This time in incredible detail. Kill count, guys she's fucked in intimate detail, brings her vibrator manual out. I'm like wtf, I should probbly kiss this bitch now. I'm SO CLOSE TO KISSING her, she's playing with a piece of paper in her hands nervously, I'm pretty sure she was getting all flushed in the face. But she keeps turning her face away from me. Long story short, I pussy out again.
We end up on the couch to watch a movie, but then she starts texting this guy who she JUST recently starting fucking and invites him over. I'm like K, I'm going to go now - like there's no way I'm going to be your gay friend and just sit here with the knowledge that he's going to come over and fuck you - fuck you like I want to.
So I piece out. By this time, I'm in a shitty emotional state. I end up texting her immediately saying, "Listen, I don't know if this is out of the blue for you, but I feel like I should have kissed you and I didn't." THAT WAS AN IDIOT MOVE. shouldn't have done that.
Anyways she texts back an hour later, probably after she's done fucking him, saying, I thought something was up with you. I'm glad you were honest, but I'm glad you didn't. That would have been a bit awkward. Ugh. Did I give off that vibe?
I'm thinking to myself, bitch wtf? Like everything up to tonight basically made me think you were interested and then you go pull this shit. WTF? Again I make a huge fucking mistake and apologize and say I don't want to lose her as a friend. What a dumbass move. I could literally just kick myself in the nuts.
Anyways, now I've just started to freeze her out. She's stopped liking my FB posts. And I haven't txted or replied to anything in a week. Just yesterday she cracked though, and liked one of my posts. She invited me to a party she's hosting...I didn't respond to the invite. I'm going to go, but I need a game plan.
Currently my plan is to act disinterested and hit on other women there. I just don't understand what went wrong. In totally thought she was interested and attracted to me, and then out of nowhere "that would be awkard"? Like what? With all the signals you were giving me??????? WHAT THE FUCK?