Oneitis becomes a parasite and really, blinds a lot of guys I think and can pussy-whip them into a spiral of emotional attachment.
But in all seriousness there is no such thing as the perfect woman. No matter how hard you look, the woman that ends up being best for you will still have some flaws. You need to sit down with yourself and figure out what traits you want to see in a woman and don't be afraid to push for them.
Even for beginners that may end up with oneitis you need to control your emotions and think clearly, are you being honest with yourself, is she the one? Or are you just trying to make it work because you think she is the one? Some people don't find the right person till their 50. Even if she is the only girl you are talking to, for whatever reason, your real dream girl could be waiting for you somewhere in the Bahamas, YOU DO NOT KNOW.(So stop treating her like she's the only girl around)(Their are more than 3.5 billion women on the planet!)Always keep in mind that their will be others, just the way your friends fill any holes in your heart, their will be others, maybe even more beautiful with a personality that really compliments yours that will come to bond and heal your broken heart.
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With that being said, shout-outs to meteora, T-mal, CDHARDERS, Lockdown, whitedragon, artandale and the many others that help to keep this forum alive, with their deep insights and experiences.
That's all folks. Thanks!