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Thread: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

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    Default Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    How to respond to this? Been getting a lot of shit tests from this one girl lately and I'm stumped on this one. We've been fucking for a while and she's been saying stuff like "at the beginning I had to impress you but I don't have to anymore".

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    That doesn't really sound like a sh1t test to me. She's basically saying that she tried to impress you at the beginning because she really liked you. Now you guys have been hooking up so she feels like she doesn't have to impress you.

    I'm pretty cocky so I would respond to that with "Good story...Tell it again sometime (Big smile)." Or "You're cute (pat her on the head)."

    You can also just ignore it. You don't have to respond to everything she says.

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    "Cool story bro. Yesterday I met a girl and she's trying to impressing me, so goodbye then! "

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    Perhaps I'm just addicted to frame control, but this has been really bugging me. Surely if she feels that she doesn't have to impress me this means her attraction is going down. Okay it also means she's comfortable with me, but it feels like if she's not trying to impress that the frame is moving away from me being the prize. Do you reckon I'm reading too deep into this?

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    Yes you're reading too deep. The fact that it's bothering you in the first place is bad news. It's not the response that will wreck you, its the fact that it ACTUALLY bothers you. This "feeling" will sabotage you. Women say silly and meaningless things ALL THE TIME. Don't let something she says effect you.

    This is how you always hold your frame without worrying about what you say: You realize you're the sh1t and she's lucky to be with you AND you don't give a sh1t what she thinks. Internalize that and the frame is ALWAYS yours. Cheers!

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    It means, as Direct says, that you care about what she thinks or says. And that is the path to get farked.

    Stop giving a fark about what she says or thinks. If you want, answer truthfully and show that you're willing to walk away. She'll either believe or don't. Truth is, this way you'd show that you don't give a fark.
    There are gazillions of girls, why do you care about this one? Are your d1ck and her vagina siamese twins?

    And by the way, if you really think that you're the prize, why are you creating this drama?

    Be cool and relaxed. Don't give a shit about her. She won't be your last girl anyways...

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    thanks bro cheers! one more question- today she said "I'm off okay" and I jokingly said "you have permission" like I often do. Except this time she said "well I'd go anyway"- any thoughts on this?

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    Forgot the PUA who said this at a 21 convention but he said that women say things to pick on their partner because they see flaws that they want you to improve on. She'll move onto the next flaw to point out too so she can mute those too. Yes it seems negative but if you are already aware of it having someone telm you what already know really doesnt matter because you are your own worst enemy. Just acknowledge it and move onto a different topic. Dont start a fight. Make your weaknesses your strength
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Sh*t test "I'm not trying to impress you"

    If a girl mentions she used to try to impress you but now she doesn't, that means she feels comfortable with you. That's good.


    The comment "I'd go anyway" is a playful one...
    You'd do well to joke back with her like, "Dang! You're getting sassy in your advancing age. There's no telling how bratty you'll be when you're 70! "

    I personally treat EVERYTHING as a joke, until it's proven otherwise. Because 95% of the time that's what girls are doing... just to see how you react. It's a good thing.

    If it turns out she's not joking, and you misunderstood something that was meant to be serious, just say "Oh damn, I'm sorry. I wasn't on the same page as you with this. I didn't realize your current state was in a different place than mine. Let's take a moment to go over this situation."

    Don't unnecessarily make a big deal out of anything.


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